Will he EVER listen? or get it?!

Karri · February 13th, 2004, 02:49 PM

I swear I am at my wit's end with my toddler (he will be 2 in 3 weeks). Anyway.....I ready 1-2-3 Magic and try to follow it. He is getting time outs left & right lately for things he does...mainly jumping on the couch and hitting his brother or sister. It doesnt phase him. He obviously knows he is doing something wrong...he looks at me with the devil grin and laughs and then does it. I punish him and he laughs. When he gets out of time out, he does it all over again.
What am I doing wrong?

Kate · February 13th, 2004, 02:55 PM

Karri, I wish I had advice for you, but Cameron is the same exact way. He laughs at me when I punish him, timeouts don't bother him at all. And he just repeats whatever behavior he was doing.

Karri · February 13th, 2004, 03:09 PM

Thanks Bretta. I will MAKE time to read if it will help!

Yes..we do have a time out chair.

Karri · February 13th, 2004, 10:51 PM

You're not being nosy

yeah...its in the corner of the dining room where he cant see anything

MaryNH · February 13th, 2004, 11:06 PM

I'm butting in, and I'm sorry..but I've having the same issues with my 2 year old. Question: How does everyone deal with it in public?

bunkie68 · February 23rd, 2004, 12:06 PM

Jumping in here to see the responses - Julian is 19 months old and not real responsive to what I tell him until I've repeated myself about 20 times (and gotten very frustrated in the process). He's also been known to laugh at me and go right on doing what I've just told him not to do, and it's wearing me out.

Bretta, I will definitely check that book out!

bunkie68 · February 23rd, 2004, 12:07 PM

At what age would it be worthwhile to start trying time outs? (Right now I'm afraid "time out" would consist of a minute, or two, or whatever time period is appropriate, of Julian jumping out of his chair and me constantly putting him back in - would he get anything from that?)

TtownAnne · February 23rd, 2004, 01:44 PM

Julian is about 18 months, right? What we did at that point was not sitting Caroline in a separate chair, because she'd certainly get right back up. Instead we'd sit her on our lap on the couch, hold her tightly so she couldn't escape. Just the "restriction" and time to calm down is quite often enough to help! Once she got the idea of being punished by sitting still, then we moved timeouts to sitting on the steps that lead to the second floor. She has never attempted to get up from there!

bunkie68 · February 23rd, 2004, 05:25 PM

Anne, Julian is 19 months. I'll have to give that a try - Lord knows he hates to be restrained in any way, even holding him still for diaper changes is a battle!

The question is, am I strong enough to *hold* him still? He hates it and fights like mad, so I'll have to try it and see if holding him gives him time to calm down or just gets him more wound up. Thanks for the suggestion!

February 13th, 2004, 02:49 PM	#1
Karri really? seriously? Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: still freakin' stressed. Posts: 21,559	Will he EVER listen? or get it?! I swear I am at my wit's end with my toddler (he will be 2 in 3 weeks). Anyway.....I ready 1-2-3 Magic and try to follow it. He is getting time outs left & right lately for things he does...mainly jumping on the couch and hitting his brother or sister. It doesnt phase him. He obviously knows he is doing something wrong...he looks at me with the devil grin and laughs and then does it. I punish him and he laughs. When he gets out of time out, he does it all over again. What am I doing wrong? __________________ Easy Bakin' Living out Loud

February 13th, 2004, 03:09 PM	#3
Karri really? seriously? Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: still freakin' stressed. Posts: 21,559	Thanks Bretta. I will MAKE time to read if it will help! Yes..we do have a time out chair. __________________ Easy Bakin' Living out Loud

February 13th, 2004, 10:51 PM	#4
Karri really? seriously? Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: still freakin' stressed. Posts: 21,559	You're not being nosy yeah...its in the corner of the dining room where he cant see anything __________________ Easy Bakin' Living out Loud

February 23rd, 2004, 01:44 PM	#8
TtownAnne Slowly getting rid of boxes... Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Should I be LTownAnne, or a whole different name? Posts: 16,978	Julian is about 18 months, right? What we did at that point was not sitting Caroline in a separate chair, because she'd certainly get right back up. Instead we'd sit her on our lap on the couch, hold her tightly so she couldn't escape. Just the "restriction" and time to calm down is quite often enough to help! Once she got the idea of being punished by sitting still, then we moved timeouts to sitting on the steps that lead to the second floor. She has never attempted to get up from there! __________________ Thanks, Shel! Moving and settlement ordeal ...11.09.09 until Caroline's 8th birthday!

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February 13th, 2004, 02:55 PM	#2
Kate Registered but not Subscribed Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 3,901	Karri, I wish I had advice for you, but Cameron is the same exact way. He laughs at me when I punish him, timeouts don't bother him at all. And he just repeats whatever behavior he was doing.

February 13th, 2004, 11:06 PM	#5
MaryNH Registered but not Subscribed Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: in limbo Posts: 561	I'm butting in, and I'm sorry..but I've having the same issues with my 2 year old. Question: How does everyone deal with it in public?

February 23rd, 2004, 12:06 PM	#6
bunkie68 Registered but not Subscribed Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Midlothian, TX Posts: 2,421	Jumping in here to see the responses - Julian is 19 months old and not real responsive to what I tell him until I've repeated myself about 20 times (and gotten very frustrated in the process). He's also been known to laugh at me and go right on doing what I've just told him not to do, and it's wearing me out. Bretta, I will definitely check that book out!

February 23rd, 2004, 12:07 PM	#7
bunkie68 Registered but not Subscribed Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Midlothian, TX Posts: 2,421	At what age would it be worthwhile to start trying time outs? (Right now I'm afraid "time out" would consist of a minute, or two, or whatever time period is appropriate, of Julian jumping out of his chair and me constantly putting him back in - would he get anything from that?)

February 23rd, 2004, 05:25 PM	#9
bunkie68 Registered but not Subscribed Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Midlothian, TX Posts: 2,421	Anne, Julian is 19 months. I'll have to give that a try - Lord knows he hates to be restrained in any way, even holding him still for diaper changes is a battle! The question is, am I strong enough to hold him still? He hates it and fights like mad, so I'll have to try it and see if holding him gives him time to calm down or just gets him more wound up. Thanks for the suggestion!