Another middle name question
 

Okay, I've looked over all the comments on middle names. I really think we have decided on a middle name for our girl, but I'm still worried about it.

Heather Hegge (pronounced H-egg-ee: accent on the first syllable)

For family reasons, I love it - it's my MIL's maiden name. So, dh's grandpa has it as a last name. It's Norwegian and it will mean a lot to dh's family.

BUT, I just feel like she's going to be teased to no end if anyone hears it. I don't want to do that to her, but I don't know what to do about it.

What do you guys think? Is it hideous?

Honestly? I don't think Hegge is a pretty name, and yes, I think there's probably room for teasing there if other kids found out. I'm still strongly in favour of you using the name because I love the family connections behind it and I think that it would grow more special to your daughter as she gets older. She may dislike it when she's 9, but I'm confident that she'll love it when she's 29.

I would vote for Hegge over any of the prettiest names you could think of because it's special, meaningful, unique and significant.

I don't think that the name is terribly awful :dunno: And she doesn't need to tell her "friends" her middle name. I think it's a very special name, which will bode much better than if it was just some random "pretty" name! You can bet no one else will have that middle name! :lol:

Honestly, I don't remember making that big of a deal over middle names as a kid. :dunno: I think it's a lovely choice for a middle name because of its significance. :)

Now there's a point. I DO remember making a big deal over middle names as a kid, but I remember laughing at EVERYONE'S middle name, regardless of what it was.

"Anne? Your middle name is Anne? Bwahahahaha!"

"Ooh, Scott. Scott-no-friends. Hahahaha."

"Maree? Hehehe, Katrina Maree. Hahaha, that's funny!"

Kids seem to find the concept of middle names inherently amusing (or perhaps my friends and I were just really lame) :lol: The only middle names I think would pose a possible long-term problem are the ones that make bad initals, like KKK or BUM. Then again, how many of us actually get our initials inscribed on our luggage? I'm not sure when I last spelt out my initials, but I think it must have been before I got married because I'm still not familiar with CLB - I still think of myself as CLT!

I think you should use it. :nod: She'll be happy for the family connection later in life. I remember going to school with a guy whose middle name was "Essery" ~ his mom's maiden name. At first we were :scratch: but once we knew it was his mom's maiden name, we thought it was all good.

I remember talking to friends about our middle names, and we used to have a "club" where we called each other by our middle names. We also had "middle name day" in grade 7, where we all used our middle names for the day.

If you're really concerned about it, would you consider giving her 2 middle names? That way if she wants to, she can tell people the other name. Just a thought. :) Regardless, I still think that using Hegge is a great choice! :aok:


I read a newspaper article years ago about what your initials spell. People with initials that spell out something bad are actually more prone to some bad stuff (I can't remember exactly... like I said, it's been years... but stuff like low self-esteem, depression, etc.) than people with "neutral initals" (like mine... SRB) or those with ones that spell something good (ACE was the example given.) I was reading it on the bus and I remember thinking it was intersting, so I told DH (then DB) about it, and the woman next to us said that her son's initals spelled PAL, and he loved it. She said he signed all of his letters "From your PAL." Isn't it funny the things that stick with us? :lol:

My DH's initials are PEE. His mom was a looney. :crazy:

I say name her whatever you want to name her. As Carol said, she probably won't always like it, but she probably will at some point. She also may opt to change it to her maiden name when she gets married. You never know.

Thanks so much guys! This all makes me feel so much better!

DH would NOT be interested in two middle names. I already tried that one. He is very against that idea.

My brother's middle name is Oliver and I would tell people his middle name and then we'd all laugh at him. I know - I was horrible. I like mine - Rebecca - so I didn't really care. Anyway, thanks again! I'm pretty sure we are naming her Heather Hegge. Carter has my maiden name (Carter Hilton), so I guess it's fitting.

No monogrammed towels for Paul. :lol:

I'd definitely go with Hegge! I don't think that's a bad name at all. And I agree, she might not like it as a kid, but she's see how special it is when she's older. :nod:

I can say that I never saw that big deal with middle names. I don't remember ever making fun of anyone for their middle name. Hell, I can guarantee that a huge majority of my friends (and I'm betting family too :lol: ) don't even know my middle name.

I think you should use it anyway, as everyone else said. I also wanted to add that I knew a few people who apparently didnt like their middle names, since they refused to tell people what they were. I had one friend who insisted it was just "e" (not unusual, as my grandfather is just "d"). Later I found out it as an adult and it wasnt unusual to me at that point.

Ditto what everyone else said. :)

I'm another one who says go for the family name. :) My initials spell out KALM (hence the user name)...not a bad one!

I say go with the family name. :nod:

Along the same lines as PEE< I had a friend in University whos initials were ARS. Poor guy. :lol: