Making it permanent?

[AahRee]

Anyone thought about permanent birth control yet? We've been talking about it a little bit lately. Honestly, I think part of the reason that the babylust hits on occasion is that I know the possibility still exists. Sometimes I think it would be easier to *finalize* things. I know that, eventually, Phil will get a vas. I'm just not sure if that's going to be sooner or later. However, I'm going to be 30 in less than six months, and I always wanted to be done having kids by the time I was 30, so I'm starting to lean towards *sooner* pretty hard. Anyone else considering it (or done it already?)

[Stacy]

Rick had the big V when Dylan was 6 months old.

I wish I had 6 months until 30. I am down to less than 2 now. :mope:

[TtownAnne]

We're arguing about it. James said there is NO way he'll go for the Big V. "I've heard of too many problems following - like pregnancy!"

[Karri]

I know I am not a parent of an onlie, but one of the reasons we jumped on the big V right away is because I knew I'd get babylust and I didnt want to have a moment of weakenss :lol:

We're arguing about it. James said there is NO way he'll go for the Big V. "I've heard of too many problems following - like pregnancy!"
As far as that happening, you do give a sample about 6 weeks after the V and they test it for spermies and if its not clear, you keep doing it (stacy can attest to that!).

[MelissaM]

I'm jumping in too...James had his vas a week and a half ago. While it was a difficult decision for us, we don't regret it for a moment. It was definitely right for us. We were told that James has to give a sperm sample in 8 weeks and if it is not negative then we have to continue using other birth control until it is. After a negative sperm count then we get the all clear. Apparently most pregnancies that result after a man has a vas are because the sperm count was still positive and the couple did not use other BC or in RARE cases the tubes re-tie themselves - recannulation or some big word like that.

[Stacy]

As far as that happening, you do give a sample about 6 weeks after the V and they test it for spermies and if its not clear, you keep doing it (stacy can attest to that!).
:lol: it took forever for Rick to be clear. We had a couple scares.

[Stacy]

Apparently most pregnancies that result after a man has a vas are because the sperm count was still positive and the couple did not use other BC or in RARE cases the tubes re-tie themselves - recannulation or some big word like that.
I can attest to this too. Friends of ours snipped 5 years ago. Their new addition just turned one last month.

[Connie1222]

We are still debating having another child so we won't be going down this road just yet. But when we finally do decide, I will be the one to get my tubes tied.

[AahRee]

Oh, my. I knew they had to give a sample to make sure everything was clear afterwards, but I didn't realize that sometimes it's NOT! :owow: I can just imagine how Phil would react to knowing he had to keep going back to check. :lol: Poor Rick!

Wow, I can't imagine how shocking it would be to think you were done, to have taken such a permanent step, and then to find out you were pg! :owow: I'd freak!

Those of you whose DH's had a vas already... how did it go? Was he really sore for a while? Did it affect things between the two of you in any way? Did it affect him physically in any lasting way? (outside of the obvious, of course...)

[AahRee]

Connie, what made you decide that you'd be the one to get your tubes tied? :)

[Karri]

How did it go? Just fine! It was a LOT easier than he thought it would be!
Was he really sore for a while? Maybe for two days. He had it done on a Weds and was ready to return to work on Friday (but didnt b/c he couldnt shower yet :lol: ). Even on Thursday he had stopped taking the vicoden and was only taking some Celebrex for the swelling/pain. He stopped using the frozen peas on Friday.
Did it affect things between the two of you in any way? Absolutely not
Did it affect him physically in any lasting way? (outside of the obvious, of course...)Not at all. He said that it felt odd the first time we did it after the V (just a few days), but that any time after that, he noticed abolutely no difference.

[NickiB]

Dh was trying to get rid of all our baby stuff yesterday so I asked him if he was going to get a Vasectomy soon because if not then we should keep the stuff in case we change our minds. I am giving myself until 34 or so to figure it out. I guess now dh would have to get the surgery and the test afterward to make sure we are in the clear! :lol:

[Karri]

Oh, I forgot to add that you can give the sample at home in a sterile cup they give you and then bring it in. Makes it easier, KWIM? :lol:

[MelissaM]

Well with us it was a bit different....James said that it was all good. I went in with him and stayed the whole time except for the surgery itself - and if they would have let me in I would have been there in a heartbeat. James found it very uncomfortable for the first few days...but he was a bull and wouldn't take it easy, so the swelling and irritation is a bit more for him than normal - but it's really his own fault :lol:

The difference for us was how *I* reacted. It was very unexpected and James thinks it is very sweet...but still. I took it really hard. I couldn't HANDLE him being in pain...it was heartbreaking for me. I also was disturbed by the thought of all of those people poking around and my husband's private parts - this from a woman who has had three children - go figure :lol: I felt quite like a Momma bear for the longest while...don't touch my mate sort of thing...I hovered over him and was constantly telling him to drop his pants so I could look for signs of infection :lol: It has been almost two weeks and everything is back in working order and lovely. We still have to use other BC for the next few weeks though.

[Shel]

David kept saying he was going to go, going to make the appt. And voila, here comes Baby #4 :lol: It's much too easy to "slip" (accidentally or not) if there is a possibility!

[Natalie]

I can attest to this too. Friends of ours snipped 5 years ago. Their new addition just turned one last month.
We must have the same friends :lol:

[Stacy]

We must have the same friends :lol:
:lol:

[kalm]

James said there is NO way he'll go for the Big V. "I've heard of too many problems following - like pregnancy!"
I'm not a parent of an only either, but want to share:

My cousin and his wife had two sons and decided they were done. He had his big V. Went back for his check and got the all clear. Six years later, his wife turns up pregnant....freaked him out so much that he went and got retested. Turns out something grew back and he was no longer shooting blanks. So, they took it as a "meant to be" and welcomed their third son into the fold. When that boy was four months old, he went for his second V. Two weeks later, his wife got a positive hpt. Now they're the proud parents of four boys (and lived into a two-bedroom house until last year when the youngest turned four!). She also had her tubes tied, so they're hoping they're really done. :lol:

[AahRee]

I'm not a parent of an only either, but want to share:

My cousin and his wife had two sons and decided they were done. He had his big V. Went back for his check and got the all clear. Six years later, his wife turns up pregnant....freaked him out so much that he went and got retested. Turns out something grew back and he was no longer shooting blanks. So, they took it as a "meant to be" and welcomed their third son into the fold. When that boy was four months old, he went for his second V. Two weeks later, his wife got a positive hpt. Now they're the proud parents of four boys (and lived into a two-bedroom house until last year when the youngest turned four!). She also had her tubes tied, so they're hoping they're really done. :lol:

:jawdrop: Oh. My. Goodness.

[Joan]

Even though I want more children, I had my tubes tied when I had jakob 9 months ago. I'm 40, and didn't want another pregnancy. we decided to adopt our next child in a few years.

[Stacy]

Holy cow, Kelley. :lol:

[bunybomb]

My hubby had the big V done 10 months ago. He had no problems with having it done. He doesn't want anymore kids and I'm right there with him now. I did have mixed feelings at the time.

My DH has yet to go back to be retested. The docs office called last week telling him that it's important to bring in the sample for testing. He just doesn't want to "spunk in a cup" (his phrase of choice). I have told him that if I get pregnant, I'll only have him to thank. I know he won't ever go back to be retested. So far, so good. I can't imagine turning up pregnant at 37 or beyond! I hope we don't become "those friends"! :lol:

[Connie1222]

Connie, what made you decide that you'd be the one to get your tubes tied? :)
Well, DH aboslutely refuses to be snipped so if I want to make it permanent, it'll have to be me. Men and their penis'....:dunno: I really have no qualms about having my tubes tied, so it's not a big deal.

[MelissaM]

That's funny Connie...I WANTED to be the one to get my tubes tied but James completely refused. If I had been thinking straight when Jacob was born I would have had my tubes ties while they had me open for surgery...as it happened, I am glad that James was the one to have it done becuase tubal ligation is much more intrusive. But I am with you, I didn't mind and I would have been the one to do it if James had refused.

[ncshop4shoes]

My current DH is very weird about not have a vas. but I'm not having my tubes tied! It's such a yucky surgery......whereas the vas. is no big deal! My late DH had it done and he was sore for a couple of days, but after that no problem......and he was happy because his Dr. told him he needed to "clean out" everything that was there so it was a very active month for us!! hehehe

Krista