Did you have a d&c?

[Michelear]

I started spotting at 8 weeks and went in for an u/s. The dr said that the baby measured 5 weeks and I must be off on my dates or it had just stopped developing. I knew I wasn't off on the date... The following week I had another u/s and more hcg levels taken and was told that the embryo wasn't viable and that I could either wait for it to "pass" or have a d&c. The dr said that it was best to have nature do it's thing but if I couldn't wait then I could have the d&c.
Well, it's been another week and still just some light bleeding (it's been going on for 2 weeks now). I don't know what to do.
Any advice?

[Katrina]

I wish I could help. I personally did not need to have a D and C as I was already passing the tissue when I was checked (I had been bleeding and cramping for a few days). I had been sent for an u/s and check with the Cheif of OB in Seoul (i was living in Korea at the time, 3 hours from Seoul) and so when they went to do (yet another) pelvic on me, they saw it passing and just *and this sounds icky* pulled it out.

If I were in your situation, I think I would go ahead with the D and C. You gave it some time to pass on its own. I would just want it over. The sooner its over the sooner you can start healing (emotionally). At least that would be the case for me.

Hugs. I am so sorry you are going through this.

[Kaybee711]

I had a D&C and my RE said that passing it is much more traumatic and hazardous to your health. I have heard that it's painful as well. Why go through it if you don't have to?! Can you get a second opinion?

[Cathleenk_77]

I had a D&C also... I just figured that it would be easier for me that way, instead of waiting and not knowing when it would come to pass.

[jkl]

I had the option of having a "d and c" or letting it happen naturally. I chose not to have a d and c... It was hard waiting for nature to take its course and it was painful.. for me, the worst pain I have ever felt. I'm not sure whether I could do it again.

[Michelear]

You know, I finally called the dr last Wednesday and said I wanted them to check me out this week. The next day it passed. I wish they'd explained things to me. I'd been unsure if I'd know when it happened since I'd been bleeding a bit for weeks... And it took about 24 hours to happen, which I also didn't know. Oh well... it made it all sadder... I'm very glad that I don't need a d&c. I was frightened of that. And I'm hoping that the bleeding stops soon. It's slowed at least...
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I'm sure it's difficult. I'd spent a most of my time trying to figure out what was going on physically rather than feel things. And I'm still not sure that I'm ready to do that. I believe that things happen for a reason but this makes me feel so sad.


Katrina, I stayed in Seoul for 3 months. Right outside of Itaewon..

[jkl]

Michele... I am so, so sorry you have to go through this. I so know what you are going through. I was also frightened of the d&c.. any medical procedure makes me nervous. but I also remember I didn't really even feel the emotional part of it until after it has passed.. please know I'm here if you need to talk. That is how I actually found UB.. those ladies who had similar experiences helped me so much. Again, I am so sorry about your loss and eveything that you are going through right now...