Those babylust moments...

[AahRee]

I really don't want another baby. I know how I want my family, and my life, to look, and adding another baby to the mix isn't in the plans at ALL.

However, I still get the occasional pang. Like, the other day. Out of the blue, I found out that one of our groomsmen from our wedding is expecting his first child (well, his wife is, but you kwim...). And I was jealous. :lol: I wanted the exciting news to be for *ME*, and I wanted all the fun that follows (the shopping, parties, etc.) to be for *ME*. It just lasted a second, before I remembered all the other things that go along with it, and all the reasons I'm happy we're NOT having any more children. But I do still get that occasional flash. I wonder if that will ever go away?

Anyone else have that happen when they hear about a pregnancy, or hold a newborn baby, or anything like that?

[KimInCanada]

Today actually! LOL My neighbour across the street has a baby boy and oh did he ever smell that nice clean baby smell and look so cute in his little outfit.. aww, aww, aww... then I remember the sleepless nights, etc... LOL

[Stacy]

I know what you are talking about.
I have had a lot of pangs like that lately but then reality sets in. I am very happy being a parent to an only child.
Yes I love to hold little ones, have parties thrown for me and have a cute pregnant belly that everyone comments on. :lol: It's great being the centre of attention.

[Bobbie]

It is a little sad not to have the joy and anticipation of a baby again, but I guess I can put that along with not being able to have another first kiss with my husband or be a bride again. I might always feel nostalgic when I see new parents with a baby, and I sure miss that baby-hair smell. But so far, I've enjoyed babies when I've had the opportunity, yet I don't have any serious longing when I hand them back to their parents.

[TtownAnne]

I get the occasional pang, but I'm not dealing with it yet because our respective minds are not fully made up. I do have the occasional twinge of "oh, another sweet cute little baby", but that generally happens on a day when Caroline is testing every single boundary that I can think of (and some I haven't!) and that brings me back to my senses. :)

[Connie1222]

Oh yes, whenever I see another baby. And sometimes when I realize how big ack is getting and that he's really not a baby anymore. But then, Jack will do some terrible 2's thing and it goes away. :lol:

[LISA]

then I remember the sleepless nights, etc... LOL
Yes that's what does it for me I remember the sleepless, colic filled nights :errr: I had 2 colicy babies:tearhair: no way I am going to tempt fate again :lol:

[Hannabanana]

I have a feeling of "regret" very often. Dh doesn't want anymore children and we've given everything baby-ish away. I wonder if I'm making the right choice in the long run for Hanna (no siblings), and for me (selfishly).

Cherie

[redhairedgirl]

I feel like the odd man out. I don't get these pangs (yet). I look at Aiden and I think about all the fun he is. Sure, I loved him when he was a newborn and we'd spend our days with him sleeping on my chest as I read a book. I just don't even seem interested in another baby.... and the only reason why I have a hard time getting rid of Aiden's baby things is because they were so cute on him... not to hold onto for a potential baby.

Maybe I'm just crazy. :screwy:

Mandy

[bunkie68]

I feel like the odd man out. I don't get these pangs (yet). I look at Aiden and I think about all the fun he is. Sure, I loved him when he was a newborn and we'd spend our days with him sleeping on my chest as I read a book. I just don't even seem interested in another baby.... and the only reason why I have a hard time getting rid of Aiden's baby things is because they were so cute on him... not to hold onto for a potential baby.

Maybe I'm just crazy. :screwy:

Mandy

Mandy, if you're crazy, so am I. I don't have baby fever in the slightest. Julian was a sweet baby, but all he did was eat, sleep and poop. :lol: Now he's old enough that we can carry on conversations and interact, and it's so much fun to see him discovering and learning and growing. If I see another baby, I usually think something along the lines of, "thank God that's not mine!" :lol: I've heard some women talk about missing being pregnant - nope, not me. Done it once, that's plenty, thanks. I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm losing weight, I'm not about to put myself in a situation where I'll gain on purpose! :lol: I still think babies are cute, but I'm not interested in going back to the newborn days.

[Alison]

I tend to get clucky when I hold my friend's baby girl. With baby boys I don't. I have a son who I adore but something inside me really wants a daughter as well. There's something about a mother daughter relationship that I long for. I keep swaying from having just the one to really wanting another so long as it's a girl but who can guarantee that right. My husband doesn't want another one. My pregnancy wasn't a problem but the labour was bad so that puts me off a lot. Anyone in the same/similar situation?

[bunkie68]

Not me - I've got a boy, I'm better suited to be a mom to a boy, and I'm happy with that. :) Not that I don't occasionally see the little baby girl things and think, oh, wouldn't it have been fun to have a daughter? But I know I'm much better equipped to deal with the loud, rough-and-tumble, messy, busy, jumping-off-furniture little boy I have than I would be to deal with a daughter who'll one day be an angst-ridden teenager. :lol: I was a teenage girl, and I couldn't have put up with me! :lol:

Alison, it would be nice if you could guarantee you'd have a girl, wouldn't it? Does your husband not want another one at all?

[redhairedgirl]

Alison, there are procedures that you can have your husband's sperm "spinned" to give you a better increase in the likelyhood of a girl. There is also Dr. Shettles Method, although it's the same.... there's still that chance you could have another boy.

I had a pretty bad pregnancy/delivery experience. I herniated a disk in my spine when Aiden was delivered. IT took 5 months for someone to finally take my back pain seriously. The disk herniated and pinched my sciatic nerve. I couldn't walk around the grocery store I was in so much pain. I couldn't clean. I couldn't pick up our son. Yet, no one seemed to listen to me. I was told that it could herniate again at any moment - pregnancy would definitely cause it to act up, and there's no way I could deliver vaginally again. Sounds like my mind was made up for me.

Lisa, I agree - I'm at a point where I am in better shape than I have ever been in my life, I weigh less than I did in HS, and well, I feel great. If I want more children, i can adopt. I'm not going through the pregnancy thing again. I just can't do it.

[AahRee]

I think it's natural, no matter how many kids you have, to wonder what having another might be like. But I have to say that I get the pangs of baby fever less and less as time goes by. I LOVE being the mom of a little girl, and not a baby! I love that we don't have to change diapers anymore! I love that no one pukes on me 10 times a day any more. I love that when Katie is upset, I can ask her what's wrong and she can tell me - with words! I love babies, don't get me wrong, but this is SO much easier!

[Martian Lullaby]

I have NO desire for another baby. However, I do have pregnancy fever very badly! I loved being pregnant.