eelyak
May 17th, 2004, 07:37 PM
I really don't know if that's the name for it or if there is a name for it. My sister and her husband were able to conceive my niece within a month. However, now she seems to be infertile. My niece just turned 3 in March and my sister and BIL haven't used anything ANYTHING since my niece was born. My sister was breastfeeding till about 10 months post partum. I've sent her my NFP books and TCOYF, and she's read it but I don't think she's accurately charting or temping.
Has anyone else heard of this happening where a seemingly healthy woman had no problems conceiving and then after that pregnancy could not conceive again?
I'm just wondering how common this is.
Kaylee
redhairedgirl
May 17th, 2004, 08:58 PM
Secondary infertility does happen. Sometimes it is explained, like a tubal problem or hormonal changes, sometimes it is unexplainable.
My stepbrother and his wife are currently going through this. They have a beautiful little daughter, who just is three. Last year when I was pregnant, they started trying for number two, but there were problems. She had a huge cyst on her ovary. She used the same GYN that I used for my infertility treatment, and while she went through laparoscopy, things just didn't get any better. It has been a year now, and they were told that they have three IVF attempts, and if none of them take, then she may never have any children of her own again. It's very sad.
I can't even imagine how frustrating it must be, knowing that you've been pregnant before and can't get pregnant again.
Here is a link describing it in more detail:
http://infertility.about.com/cs/secondaryif/a/2ndryIF.htm
Mandy
happysmileylady
May 17th, 2004, 09:20 PM
It's called unexplained secondary infertility and I am dealing with it myself. My daughter is eight. DH and I have been trying for over two years for a second (she is from a prior relationship) with NOTHING. We have had tests and we are perfectly healthy. His swimmers are normal, my plumbing is all working right, but we still haven't gotten pg. It's incredibly frustrating because the two most common things I hear are "just be happy with the one you have, some people can't even have that" and "well, you know you can get pg, because you already have, so you must be trying too hard." In addition, there is the guilt because you (general you) know there ARE people that can't even have one and would give anything to have at least just one, yet here you are with one happy healthy kid and want to be greedy and have more. That's on top of everything else that those with primary IF are dealing with as well.