Once Upon a Life - How far along were you when you miscarried??

Manda

December 19th, 2003, 11:29 PM

Just curious to know how far along people were when you miscarried. I'm curious to see if its more common to miscarry early on in the beginning of the pregnancy.
I was 5 1/2 weeks far along when it happened. It was my first pregnancy.
And how did people react when you told them?? I notice some people for me act like i just had the flu or something. Like it was no big deal.

Bev

December 20th, 2003, 01:08 PM

First let me say, I am sorry for your loss. I think most people don't know what to say and many have not experienced it, so they figure oh well, it's not such a big deal. And maybe physically it isn't, but emotionally, there just went your dreams, right? You had lots of hopes and plans for this baby, and those are gone now, and I don't think most people think that way.

Having said that, I didn't miscarry. I never had a baby in the first place. I had a complete molar pregnancy. It is caused by an egg with no genetic information being fertlized by a sperm. The egg implants and instead of a placenta a tumour forms. I found out very early, at 9w3days because my Doctor ordered an ultrasound because she couldn't hear the heartbeat (we did at 8w3d with Mason) and I had some brownish spotting.

Most people have never heard of it; I use the experience to educate them on it. Also, most people are horrified because I had to have 2 D&C and 12 shots of chemotherapy to get rid of it. I don't tell most people, of course, but my close friends know and some of SIL's friends know because she told them, and I think my sister's in law's know too.

Mamey

December 21st, 2003, 11:00 PM

I found out when I was 6 wks 5 days according to LMP. I had HCG levels drawn two days after I got my positive, and it was 24. Not a good sign! Four days later only 34. But then two days later it was 72. So we held onto the hope that I just got my positive really early, and scheduled an ultrasound for 7 wks. I started spotting on Halloween, and went in for an ultrasound. They pretty much saw nothing... it looked like tissue buld up; my body had reabsorbed almost everything. The only good part was that I didn't have the physical pain of miscarrying; just bled for a week. But it was so difficult to go through!! Then the next cycle, I got a two positives! Very hesitant obviously, and got an HCG draw right away. Came back as a 2! We were crushed. Doc said it sounds like a chemical pregnancy. Three days later, I got af. So here I am, about to test again tomorrow... nervous but hopeful.

Good luck to all! :bighug:
Amy

SusanD

December 22nd, 2003, 06:32 AM

We found out at our 12 week u/s that the baby had stoppd growing at 8 weeks and there was no h/b. Also found out at the appt that there were 2 sacs, 1 that looked as though my body was reabsorbing it. That was the Tuesday and we had the D&C on Friday. I never had any major bleeding afterwards, just some spotting for 8-9 days.

Susan

wintergirl

December 28th, 2003, 10:21 PM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss! :bighug:

I had a m/c at 5.5 wks and a missed miscarriage at almost 12 wks. Before the missed miscarriage, we got to see the baby's heartbeat at around 8 wks on an u/s so we told EVERYONE that I was PG. When I went in for my next appt. the dr couldn't find a heartbeat so she did a quick u/s to check...they couldn't find a heartbeat and measurements indicated that the baby stopped developing at around 9 or 10 wks so they prepped me for a d&c right then and there. This all happened on the day of my company's big yearly customer appreciation night and employee attendance is mandatory. Obviously I was in no condition to go to this huge party so I called a female co-worker, Lynn, at the party and explained. Apparently my absence was noticed by quite a few co-workers (because they didn't want to be there either) and they kept badgering Lynn to find out where I was. She decided to discretely tell people why I wasn't there so that they wouldn't give me an ear full of "How'd you get out of going to the party" back at work on Monday. Fast forward to Monday...the women I work with didn't say much to me at all about it except for a few uncomfortable "It was for the best" and "You're young, you can try again..." :rolleyes: The MEN shocked me though! They were so sensitive and caring about the whole situation...honestly I was shocked because I really thought it'd be the other way around. I figured the men would be uncomfortable and would avoid saying anything (or worse yet maybe say something insensitive) but actually the women were the ones that did that. *sigh*

Tricia

December 29th, 2003, 07:45 PM

I was 11.5 weeks when I went in for light bleeding to the ER. At the time I was mad at the world but now I can see a different way about it. My DH and I knew that it was going to be hard for us to get pg and decided to start trying immediately thinking that if it was going to be 10 years before we had kids, then we would at least have the time behind us. However we were pg within 4 months. Of course it has been 2 years since the loss and it is just as fresh as it was then. We had not heard the heartbeat at the time that I lost the baby and at the u/s they said that the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. People were very non-chalant about the loss. I got the same, you are young spill as well. I am so sick of that that I could just scream.
One of my best friends just lost her baby on Christmas Day at 20 weeks when she went into preterm labor. Of course the morons at the ER did not check her at all but that is a different post. They had heard the heartbeat numerous times.

Brandy

December 29th, 2003, 08:08 PM

I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks.

Stacy

January 1st, 2004, 10:30 AM

I had a blighted ovum noticed at about 12 weeks. It's similar to a molar p/g but not as serious. I should have had a d&c because I went through 5 days of contractions until I passed the tissue. We waited one cycle and were blessed with a son 21 months ago.
My sister was 6 months along when she spotted and lost her baby. She is just now dealing with all the emotions even though she has a 3 year old son and this happened the year before he was born.

JuniperJen

January 2nd, 2004, 12:42 PM

I had a missed m/c that was discovered at 10 weeks. :cry: I had very light brown spotting at 6 weeks, so we had two ultrasounds (one a 7 weeks, one at 8 weeks). We saw a healthy heartbeat at both ultrasounds, so we thought we were safe. We told everyone about the pregnancy after the second ultrasound.
People were very supportive when I returned to work a few days after the D&C, but they completely avoided the topic. I know it made them uncomfortable. One fellow teacher had a missed m/c at 12 weeks a year before me, and she was wonderful to me. I knew I could ask her anything or talk to her when I was feeling down.

Jillian

January 2nd, 2004, 03:52 PM

I was about 5-6 weeks when I miscarried.

gulp!

January 2nd, 2004, 05:25 PM

I was only 5 weeks when I miscarried. I had only known I was pg for less than a week! It was hard to handle, but I can't even imagine how much harder for those of you who m/c'd much further down the line. I too hated those "oh well" type comments. A simple "I'm sorry" would've been much better.

Sorry for your loss. :(

Renee

January 2nd, 2004, 06:56 PM

I had my first miscarriage at 5 weeks in Feb of 2003. I had just found out I was pregnant again on Decmber 16th. We had started seeing a RE and had to do an IUI. The first one failed but the second one worked. Well on the 27th I started spotting and my HCG levels went way down so they told me I would miscarry this one too. I was 5.5 weeks along with this one too. I am going back to the RE on Monday because she wants to make sure my HCG level is down to zero and to also discuss what we can do different for the next time. I was on progesterone suppositories but maybe the doseage just wasnt high enough.

If anyone has had more than one miscarriage, did your doctor do anything different to help you carry it? I am really scared to get pregnant again. I do not know how I will be able to relax and enjoy being pregnant when I will be so fearful of another miscarriage.

Mamey

January 3rd, 2004, 12:16 AM

Renee I'm so sorry to hear this news! So do you know for sure you've lost the baby? I guess I'm just holding onto any strand of hope that's out there. :crossfing: Sending hugs your way!! :bighug:

Amy

Renee

January 3rd, 2004, 10:12 AM

My RE said that I was losing the baby. The last HCG test she gave me was on 12/18 (14dpIUI) and my numbers were 70.9. On 12/29 (with another doctor)they were only 169 and they should have been close to 5,000. My RE doesnt seem to have any hope. I was holding on to some hope but I took another HPT and the line is getting very light. This is very hard on me becuase I have stopped spotting a few days ago. They had me stop the progesterone on Tuesday, so the bleeding should have started by now. When you don't see any blood it makes it hard to have closure becuase there will always be some doubt in your mind if it is really happening. So I guess in actuality, I am in the process of losing the pregnancy since I havent passed anything yet. I have been getting really bad cramps off and on though. I just don't understand why I am going through this again. I know it's not my fault and it is nothing I did but sometimes its hard to believe that. I guess I just have to be patient and wait until Monday when I will go back to the RE and maybe she will have some insight on why I can't make it past week 5.

Stacy

January 3rd, 2004, 02:27 PM

:cry: I am sorry, Rene.

Manda

January 3rd, 2004, 04:48 PM

I am so sorry Renee! I found that the waiting part was the worst. I just wanted to know either way so i could try to deal with it. But then they stick you in Limbo and its the worst. If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me anytime! Sending hugs your way :hug1:

wintergirl

January 5th, 2004, 09:10 PM

If anyone has had more than one miscarriage, did your doctor do anything different to help you carry it? I am really scared to get pregnant again. I do not know how I will be able to relax and enjoy being pregnant when I will be so fearful of another miscarriage.
I'm interested to hear what your dr plans to do when you get PG again. I am currently TAB but when we TTC again my dr really doesn't plan on doing anything differently. She is waiting until I have at least 3 consecutive m/c but what she doesn't understand is...I may have already. Long story short:

Dec. of 02 I got a BFP with FRE (OK honestly I tested about a dozen times and got BFP with all)...a few days later I got what seemed like a really odd AF. I figured it was either a chem pg or maybe somehow false positives. Next cycle, more BFP's and AF is late. Yet again, the bleeding starts so I go straight to the dr's in a panic. They tell me that if I have my period I can't be pg...I try to explain that I don't think it's really AF and showed them some of my obviously ++ PG tests...I get pushy and insist on a blood pg test (which they finally gave me almost a week later) and it comes back at a level of 5...they say "Huh, don't know how to explain that...you must be one of those women who has a low level of Hcg in their blood all the time." :rolleyes: At that point I decide they're idiots and find another dr. Next cycle, more BFP's and I'm very late so I go see my new dr...who was very rushed and doesn't even listen to my concerns about the previous 2 cycles. I made it to 12 weeks and even saw the baby's heartbeat only to later find out I had a missed miscarriage at 9 wks. This new doctor obviously won't argue that I had a miscarriage the last time BUT she's unsure that I was pg the other two times since she did not see me then...Obviously I'm afraid to be PG again...I'm also curious to hear what other's dr's have done to help after multiple miscarriages.

Renee

January 6th, 2004, 12:15 PM

Wintergirl,

I am sorry to hear about all of your trouble TTC.

My doctor ordered some genetic testing for both me and my DH and also an HSG for me. She just wants to look at my uterine cavity. I don't think there will be a problem with my tubes since I have been able to get pregnant, unless if one tube is blocked.

I was doing Clomid with the IUI and she said that clomid can thin your lining so next IUI I will be on injectables called Bravelle. I guess Bravelle is supposed to help thicken your lining. She will also increase my progesterone doseage. So that is her game plan unless if something shows up on the genetic tests or the HSG. I go for the HSG next Wednesday. She also put back on the pill for this cycle so I could have the HSG this cycle instead of next. If anyone has had an HSG how bad was it??

shea5

January 6th, 2004, 10:23 PM

5 1/2 weeks for me, I had only know for 5 days, and was prepared for the possibility. Luckily we hadn't told anyone, I couldn't handle the ackwardness...my DH told his family afterwards, but let them know I didn't want to talk about it.

meredith

Alexis

January 7th, 2004, 04:46 PM

My first pregnancy ended at 18 weeks, due to a partial molar pregnancy. It's very similar to what Beverly went through with the exception that a baby started to form, but the placenta got most of the dna (that's really simplifying things....). It wasn't caught earlier because I had no signs of it, and it's pretty unusual for someone my age to have it. Also, the doctor thought that she heard the hb at 12 weeks, but it was faint. The perinatologist who performed my d&c said that it was quite possible that she did hear the hb at 12 weeks, and that the baby stopped developing shortly after.

My second pgy ended in miscarriage at 5.5 weeks. We were crushed. Due to my history of molar pg, I had my hcg checked to make sure the molar hadn't come back.

As fas as what my doctor is doing differently - not much. I'm now 26w and everything is going fine. Early in my pgy, I requested an HcG draw, just to make sure my numbers were doubling the way they were supposed to, and I also had an u/s at 8w to make sure that the pregnancy was viable. Other than that, my doc told me to take it easy -- more for my peace of mind than anything else though. After I have the baby, I'll have to have my hcg checked weekly for about 6 weeks to make sure that the hcg level is dropping the way it's supposed to since I'm at risk for the molar to come back.

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.

Bev

January 7th, 2004, 08:29 PM

Alexis, don't let them forget they have to send the placenta to the lab for histology/pathology work to make sure there isn't molar tissue there too. I'm getting a good education on this stuff (not that I wanted to). :)

stass

January 7th, 2004, 08:48 PM

I had an ultrasound at 9 weeks which showed the fetus stopped growing at 6 weeks. Then I had to wait a week to make sure I wasn't off on my dates for another us a week after the first. Then I waited 4 more days to miscarry which took 2 days total. Sorry for your loss. There doesn't seem to be a pattern except it ususlly happens in the first tri.

stass

January 7th, 2004, 08:50 PM

Oh yeah, I wasn't very careful after that miscarriage in October and was pg again right away so I think I mc at 5 weeks in December.

Cortney

April 9th, 2004, 11:27 PM

8 weeks :(

Angenieta

April 10th, 2004, 10:07 AM

Hmm that's actualy the big mistery of my m/c.
According to my lmp I was 5 weeks along.
But they DID see an embrio, which wouldn't have been possibile at 5 weeks.
It mesured more like 8 weeks.
It looks like I was a month pregnant without ever notecing.
Had a normal, abondant AF, a out-of-the-book chart, and lots of O signs.
But still it seems I was already pregnant.
Anyway at that point a hb should have been seen and there wasn't any.
+ the yolk sac was disintegrating.
So I had a d&c April 3rd.

ali

April 20th, 2004, 05:10 PM

I had a stillbirth at 39 weeks . We went to the hosptial bc I could not feel the baby move and three u/s techs. perfomed and the Doctor was called to our room and we were given the horriffic news that our child had no fetal movement and no heart beat and that she was dead.... life just is not fair.... March 2, 2003. I feel everyones pain. it doesnot matter when you loss your child, the first moment your told that your expecting you are overwemled with happiness, so now matter how far along anyone is, it is the most disappointing and heartbreaking emotion that can happen. Please take care, sending my thoughts to all that have lost.

Girlo

May 9th, 2004, 04:56 AM

I had 2 m/c's in 2002 - one in June at about 6 weeks and the other in September at 12 weeks. :(

The first one I believe was a blighted ovum, or something similar. My HcG levels weren't real high and my HPT tests were on the faint side.
The second one was rough. It was a missed m/c... I had an u/s at 6 weeks to make sure things were okay and we saw the hb. At my midwife appt at 12 weeks, she couldn't find a hb and sent me for an u/s. Our baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and I had a D&C later that week. I was horribly sad and petrified to get pg again for about 3.5 months after that. :(

When 2003 rolled around, I started charting again and I talked to my midwife to see how I might prevent this from happening again - testing, diet, etc. I was told that 1 m/c is pretty common....sad, but no biggie (from an IF standpoint). 2 m/c was a yellow flag - something to keep an eye on, but not enough to warrant testing, etc. 3 m/c meant that something is seriously going on here. Until I had that 3rd m/c, they would just keep an eye on me.
Insanely lucky woman that I am - I got pg in March, 2003. :)
Since all my tests - pap, blood, etc. - were normal, there wasn't anything physically wrong with me to explain why I had the 2 previous m/c. I was put on 1 dose of baby aspirin per day until about 16 weeks along.
I was told that SOME women (not nec. ME, but you never knew....) had issues with blood clotting where the placenta forms and attaches to the uterus. This blocks flow to the baby and can end things pretty suddenly....around that transition time when the placenta is forming and the egg sac disappears - about 9 weeks. The baby aspirin would be enough to keep things moving along. Whether or not this made the difference for me, I'll never know.....but I have a healthy, perfect baby boy today! :) Needless to say, I have a bottle of baby aspirin in my cupboard right now in preparation for baby #2.....

I don't know if this helps any of you who have had the 2 m/c's....let me know if you have any questions...

Linda

May 12th, 2004, 07:11 PM

Missed miscarriage discovered at 15 weeks, fetal demise estimated at 9 weeks.

Irish Luck

May 17th, 2004, 04:34 AM

I found out two days before my 12 week scan, the scan I wnt on to have revealed that I had a missed miscarriage, the baby had stopped growing at about 7 weeks.

SophiasMommy

June 4th, 2004, 09:20 PM

I had my m/c at 6w3d.

3 months later I found out I was pg again. I started the baby aspirin on my own and my ob put me on progesterone. I went into preterm labor at 22-23 wks and delivered my beautiful daughter at 24 wks! She is now 8 months old!

Next time, I will do the baby aspirin and progesterone. I will also be on a strict pelvic restriction meaning NO sex at all!! The only things going in my vagina will be progesterone and my dr! LOL I will also be having transvag u/s every 2-3 wks to check my cervix!

I'm sorry for everyone's losses!

Unfortunately it was my first pg and we told everyone! Everyone was very sympathetic and considering my fragile state of mind really watched their p's and q's!

The sad part is that 2 months to the day after our m/c, my DH's father passed away and 3 wks after that we found out we were pg again.

Harfin

June 5th, 2004, 12:41 AM

I was nearly fourteen weeks.

MamaGoofy

June 7th, 2004, 03:22 PM

I was 6w5D when I miscarried. We are actually trying again now..I am so scared.

Psyche

June 15th, 2004, 03:15 AM

I just had another miscarriage... 6 weeks this time.

Michelear

June 22nd, 2004, 01:54 PM

The baby stopped developing at 5 weeks. I found out with an u/s at 8 weeks. 2 weeks later, it hasn't passed. I'm not sure whether to wait or have a d&c.

Katrina

June 22nd, 2004, 09:23 PM

5.5 - 6 weeks. I started cramping and bleeding, it got worse over the next day, several pelvic exams and an u/s later and I had passed it. I had actually started passing it on my own and they finished for me when I had a pelvic before the u/s. I am glad they did because I wouldnt have been able to handle seeing it pass on my own.

Eva

September 2nd, 2005, 09:56 PM

I miscarried on Monday. I was exactly 7weeks. :(

JustJen

September 2nd, 2005, 10:12 PM

Oh no Eva, I'm so sorry for you loss. :hug99:

Eva

September 2nd, 2005, 10:26 PM

Thanks Jen :)

Brandi

September 3rd, 2005, 01:20 AM

I'm so sorry Eva! I hadn't realized this! I hope you are dealing well with this. I'm just so sorry.

Eva

September 3rd, 2005, 02:12 AM

Thanks Brandi :) I am doing OK. It has been a long and draining week but I think things are settling down.

Bev

September 3rd, 2005, 09:20 AM

Oh Eva. :blue: I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug99:

Eva

September 3rd, 2005, 04:06 PM

Thanks Beverly :)

Kara

September 3rd, 2005, 05:56 PM

I am so sorry for your loss Eva...(((HUGS)))

I started some spotting at 5 1/2 weeks or so...went to the dr around 6 1/2...was measuring at 5 still..did b/w and u/s....came back for more b/w and another u/s. My hcg was going down and there was no change on the u/s..I chose to have the d/c.

neesy7

December 2nd, 2005, 03:40 PM

AllyRae

December 2nd, 2005, 03:48 PM

:hug99: I'm so sorry neesy.... I hope it's just that your little one is a little small...I'm not sure if it helps much, but my first son Brandon measured one or two weeks behind during the first trimester, and he's now a happy, healthy 2 year old (and he's still small for his age!). Good luck and please keep us updated (and welcome to OUAL!)

Bev

December 3rd, 2005, 07:59 AM

Neesy Welcome to OUAL. :hug99: There are numerous reasons why the baby could be measuring small. Perhaps your dates were off and you O'd later than you thought and therefore aren't as far along. In the early stages sometimes size can be off by a week or more with no problems. Take care and good luck. :hug99:

Girlo

December 3rd, 2005, 09:49 AM

I'm sorry you have to deal with this stress right now, Neesy. :hug99: I'll sending some positive, supportive thoughts/prayers your way right now that either your due date is off or your baby is just on the small side. :) Like the 1st tri isn't stressful enough!!!

neesy7

December 5th, 2005, 05:23 PM

Thanks to all for supportive words. I spoke with a Ob/GYN nurse and she said this kind of thing happens all of the time. I guess I should just relax, but it is so difficult. I HATE FIRST TRIMESTER!

Dori

December 5th, 2005, 08:08 PM

I miscarried at 8 weeks 3 days. :(

neesy7

December 6th, 2005, 09:23 AM

Dori: I am so sorry. Had you seen a heartbeat already?

Dori

December 6th, 2005, 10:45 AM

Yes, twice. :( I had an ultrasound on a Tuesday and judging by how big the baby was we think it stopped beating a day or two after that and then we found out the following Wednesday.

neesy7

December 6th, 2005, 11:00 AM

Why did you have so many U/S so early? Was there a reason to be concerned?

Dori

December 6th, 2005, 03:45 PM

Yes. My hcg wasn't doubling like it was supposed to. It was going up, but not doubling. We thought after the second ultrasound, second time seeing a heartbeat and everything looking perfect we were in the clear.. but we were wrong.

Once there is a hearbeat the chance of a m/c is under 3%. When is your next u/s scheduled for?

neesy7

December 6th, 2005, 04:08 PM

My next U/S is on Thursday, and the waiting is excruciating. I appreciate you offering all of this personal information. I know it must be painful.

I don't even know if my doctor has looked at my hcG. I am assuming she has, but since I have only had one prenatal visit, there is probably nothing to compare it to. I wrote down a bunch of questions for the doctor that I want her to answer before even looking at the next U/S.

Dori

December 6th, 2005, 10:16 PM

I know, waiting is SO hard. The thing with your hcg.. if it isn't doubling, there is nothing they can do. At first I wished I hadn't known but then when I did miscarry I was glad because atleast I wasn't blindsided. And my baby was measuring TO THE DATE up until its heart stopped beating so one doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the other. I pray that you are just fine.. I know it is almost impossible not to worry. Mine was such an emotional roller coaster that I finally just decided to quit thinking negatively and what was going to happen was going to happen but I was going to enjoy being pregnant while I could if this was all going to head south. And I am so glad I did that.. because even though I lost my baby I enjoyed him/her for a short, wonderful time.

Hugs to you. :bighug:

Mellissa

December 6th, 2005, 11:06 PM

I just went for my 8 week U/S, and there was a hb but the baby measures only 6 weeks. I am supposed to wait a week to check to see if it has grown. Am I crazy or does it make sense that I should prepare for the worst? I would love to hear some words of encouragement, but I just feel like something is horribly wrong.

Hi Nessy, sorry for this difficult time. I dont know if it helps, but my daughter (now 3yrs old) measured extremely small my whole pregnancy. In Fact, when I was 38 weeks, she was measuring only 34 weeks. She put on some weight at the end, and came out 6lbs 11oz!!! She was very healthy. Good luck at your appt, hope its good news. Let us know!!

neesy7

December 7th, 2005, 09:01 AM

Bev

December 7th, 2005, 11:19 AM

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. I am so impressed/amazed by those who are able to muster up positivity in the face of disappointment. I wish they bottled that ability into pill form.

My follow-up appt is tomorrow, and as I am getting closer, I am feeling even more sad and anxious. Of course, it doesn't help that 3 of my closest friends are pregnant and everything is smooth sailing for them. I hate how that makes me feel--I feel like a horrible person for being jealous/resentful of their joy and ease.

Neesy NEVER apologize for feeling jealous/resentful of your friends' joy and ease with their pregnancies. Those are your feelings and you are entitled to them. It doesn't mean you aren't happy for them, just sad/mad for yourself.

When I was going through my year long episode, I had just moved across the country and didn't know a soul (except one on-line friend in my new town) and my friends where I used to live couldn't believe how well I was handling everything. I said if crying and whining would fix it; I'd do it! But it won't so there isn't any point, I'll just get through what I need to and wait until I'm allowed to TTC again. Eventually I was allowed, then almost needed IVF but got lucky and got Graham. I hope everything works out as well for you as it eventually did for me. :hug99:

Dori

December 7th, 2005, 01:30 PM

Yes, don't apologize for feeling that way. I was pregnant with my sister and were exactly 8 weeks apart.. it was like a dream come true.. and I have those exact feelings.. and that is my niece or nephew. I totally understand. Looking forward to hearing about your appt tomorrow.

MamaGoofy

December 7th, 2005, 01:48 PM

Neesy I am going to ditto everything everyone has said. It is normal to feel that way. Don't apologize! I still get angry when I hear of yet another person getting a bfp...It's been almost 2 years since I lost my little angel. I pray that your pg goes along fine.

Dori: How are you holding up??? You doing ok?? :hug99:

AllyRae

December 7th, 2005, 01:53 PM

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. I am so impressed/amazed by those who are able to muster up positivity in the face of disappointment. I wish they bottled that ability into pill form.

My follow-up appt is tomorrow, and as I am getting closer, I am feeling even more sad and anxious. Of course, it doesn't help that 3 of my closest friends are pregnant and everything is smooth sailing for them. I hate how that makes me feel--I feel like a horrible person for being jealous/resentful of their joy and ease.

Do not feel bad about your feelings.... They are perfectly normal and a part of grieving. Heck, I'm jealous and resentful of my very own mom...she announced that she was pregnant 2 months after Ryland passed away. I feel guilty as heck for feeling that way about my mom, but the world just seems like a very unfair and messed up place to me. And those feelings are fine and acceptable. Sometimes it's not a magic pill that allows one to post positively--it's the one calm moment in days, weeks, or months of wanting to kick and scream and cry...

:hug99: to you... Peaceful thoughts for you appointment tomorrow.

neesy7

December 14th, 2005, 11:39 AM

I went back for my follow-up U/S last Thursday and the heartbeat was gone. Had a D&C on Friday morning. It is so surreal. To go from being pregnant one minute to not pregnant the next....Been down ever since. Went back to work Monday. Better than sitting at home being miserable. I just feel so angry!

Dori

December 14th, 2005, 01:41 PM

Oh Neesy I am so so sorry. I was just thinking about you this morning wondering how your appt went. I so feel your pain.. the only advice I can give is to allow yourself to go through all the emotions. I give that advice barely being able to do it myself. It was two weeks ago today and the pain is the same as it was that day.. but they say it will get better.

I hope you decide to stick around OUAL.. this is a wonderful support group for whatever you are going through. My heart goes out to you. :bighug:

Bev

December 14th, 2005, 01:54 PM

Oh Neesy, I'm sorry. :hug99:

MamaGoofy

December 15th, 2005, 11:38 AM

Neesy I know what you are saying and understand your feelings. PM me if you want to talk. :hug99:

Eva

December 15th, 2005, 11:55 AM

I am so sorry Neesy. :hug99:

AllyRae

December 15th, 2005, 12:03 PM

I am so sorry Neesy. :(

Mellissa

December 15th, 2005, 10:54 PM

Neesy- I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

Dawn

December 16th, 2005, 10:06 AM

Nessy, so sorry for your loss. I totally understand what it's like and remember that it WILL get better. Take each day at a time, and take all the time you need to allow yourself to go through whatever emotions you need to. I'll be thinking about you....

neesy7

December 21st, 2005, 09:43 AM

Bev

December 21st, 2005, 01:24 PM

Thanks all for the sympathy. Got some more bad news from the doc with the return of the pathology report. Apparently it was a partial molar pregnancy. Not sure what it all entails, but doc says I won't even be able to start trying to get PG again for at least 6 months. More disappointment. I go Friday to discuss treatment. Anyone had experience with this?

YES!!! Sort of; mine was a complete mole. He's WRONG!!!! If your hCG comes down w/in 7 weeks you only have to wait 3 months. Contact the New England Trophoblastic Disease Center (at Brigham and Women's Hospital at Harvard, Google it) and www.isstd.org (http://www.isstd.org/) for more info. DO YOUR RESEARCH. Check the Molar board at Babycenter,
http://bbs.babycenter.com/board/preconception/precongrief/1143021
I belong to it and it is EXCELLENT! Very suppportive and informative. IGNORE him if he mentions cancer, which he will. Trust me. PM me for more information if you want it.

Bev

December 21st, 2005, 01:26 PM

PS: Make sure you get weekly betas until your hCG is "normal" usually less than 5. Then you only need to go once per month after that.

neesy7

December 21st, 2005, 02:37 PM

Beverly, thanks for the info. I will check it out.

meyen

December 25th, 2005, 07:18 PM

I have never been on this sight before but On the Dec 12 I also went to the doctor and they didn't find a heart beat.

Bev

December 26th, 2005, 01:59 PM

Meyen I am sorry for your loss. :(

Neesy any word on your appt?

aphi1872

January 23rd, 2007, 03:05 AM

I was about 6 weeks along when the d&c was done. It was done the day after our 5th wedding anniversary 12/12/06

MamaGoofy

January 23rd, 2007, 07:41 AM

I was about 6 weeks along when the d&c was done. It was done the day after our 5th wedding anniversary 12/12/06

I am so sorry for your loss. :hug99:

sunnyflower

January 24th, 2007, 06:02 PM

Hi everyone.

I had m/c at 6 weeks in January of 2003. It was quite the shock, but was very textbook you could say: bleeding and my hcg levels went down. I was fortunate to get pg with Brenna later that year.

Now onto this year. On January 3rd I got a positive pg test. This was a Wed. By Sat. all of my "symptoms" disappeared and I had severe cramps. Sunday I started bleeding and passing clots. The next day I called the dr and went in for bloodwork. My hcg level was 28 or 29. I went back a week and a half later (1st test was the 8th, 2nd was the 18th). I hadn't heard from them so I called today. My level was 114. WIth all of the bleeding I had that 1st week and now I have had some more bleeding (brownish) this week, shouldn't my numbers have gone down? They definitely didn't double. I'm going tomorrow for more bloodwork. Also, because of these results I went out and bought a test and it came up pg too. WHat do you think is going on?

Kerrie

Alyson

January 24th, 2007, 06:38 PM

Wow Kerrie.. I hope all is well for you. I've been having some light bleeding today so I'm playing the waiting game... Thinking sticky thoughts for both of us!

MamaGoofy

January 24th, 2007, 07:07 PM

Kerrie I am not sure what to think. My first thought was you are still pregnant. What does your dr say?

:pray: for sticking babies for you and Alyson!! :pray:

Alysia

January 24th, 2007, 07:24 PM

Oh my, Kerrie! Keep us posted!!

Bev

January 24th, 2007, 07:37 PM

Oh Kerri! :hug99:

This MAY (and I stress MAY) be a molar, if your numbers do not go down. PLEASE run to your doc and get a beta and a u/s. If it is a molar PM me and I will give you everything I know about it because I guarantee, I know more than your doctor. DO NOT fool around with this if your numbers are going up. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I'll try to check in as often as I can to see what is going on with you.

Cami

January 25th, 2007, 03:38 AM

Kerrie, I really think you need to have an ultrasound. It could be like Bev said, or an incomplete miscarriage, or the baby could be fine. I had a pregnancy with massive bleeding on and off from weeks 8 to 12 and the baby was fine until the 12th week. I'm sorry to be graphic... I'm not sure how else to describe things. I hope you're ok.

Alyson, I hope you and the baby are fine too!!

sunnyflower

January 25th, 2007, 05:57 PM

Thanks everyone! I went this afternoon for bloodwork (after 3). I called at lunch to see if I could see my dr but he wasn't in the office today. Must be his hospital day or day at the other office. Anyway, the nurse, who was nicer than the one I talked to on Wed, said that it could have been a twin pregnancy and that is why the numbers were high. OK, at 14DPIUI with Brenna, my numbers were 380. Two days later 840 I think and then two days later they were over 1900. And that was at 4 weeks! If my calculations are correct I am about 7 weeks. My SIL went in for a 12 week appointment and they didn't hear a heartbeat and was told the baby didn't make it past 7 weeks. Could this be the same thing.

When I went for the blood work I was telling the technician all that has gone on and she said that I may have to have an injection. I remember hearing about this. ANy of you ladies know what she means?

~Kerrie

Bev

January 25th, 2007, 07:23 PM

Kerrie, get a u/s. If your numbers are going UP then you either have a viable pregnancy or molar pregnancy. If you think you had a miscarriage and your numbers are going up, RUN DON'T WALK to get a u/s. Do not settle for bloodwork at this point. If it's a molar, you need proper treatment, not just a shot. The nurse is talking about a shot of methotrexate, but you shouldn't have it if you are still (or possibly still) pregnant. Bloodwork alone will not diagnose pregnancy or molar, you need a u/s for that. I had a complete molar in 2003 so I speak from experience.

More :hug99:

sunnyflower

January 27th, 2007, 05:36 AM

The blood work revealed that my numbers went down. HCG Quant was 54. Guess what they recommended-you got it-more blood work next week. I asked the nurse to talk to my dr about everything that had been going on and she did, but he still wanted to do the repeat blood work. I really like him and it seems like he has changed since I had m/c in 2003. He said that sometimes it takes a while for everything to be passed. If I am still bleeding (right now it is very light) I will call on Monday.

Thanks for all the support!

~Kerrie