I have a question.. which will be at the end.

Sat night my friends are coming over to watch Twilight for our Girls Night In. I just found out that my sister and BIL will be up here again (they were here this weekend as well). Not to be mean, but I don't want my sister here on Sat night. I have reasons though... 1. She doesn't really know this group of my friends at all. 2. I won't be as comfortable if she's around. 3. She's never watched or read Twilight.. and everyone else coming has.

My question is.. do I invite her and hope that she won't come? Do I let it come up in casual conversation but not invite her? or what?? I really don't know what to do! TIA!

Is she expecting to come over to your house Saturday night? I guess I wouldn't worry about it unless she asks you what you are up to and just tell her you have other plans-- especially since they were just up there.

Can you let her know that you have plans on Saturday but are happy to see them at another time during the weekend?

Is she expecting to come over to your house Saturday night? I guess I wouldn't worry about it unless she asks you what you are up to and just tell her you have other plans-- especially since they were just up there.

That is what I'd say.

Is she expecting to come over to your house Saturday night? I guess I wouldn't worry about it unless she asks you what you are up to and just tell her you have other plans-- especially since they were just up there.this :nod: If she doesn't know this group of friends, then you should not feel obligated to invite her, unless you already told her you would do something w/her.

As I see it, you do have a life outside of family, it's not like she is specifically come up to see you and hasn't seen you in ages so I wouldn't even think twice about it. I have parties and things all the time with out asking my sister when she is in town, I have my own life.

Thanks so much to all of you! I've had a rough year dealing with my sister (and mom) and was really worried about doing the 'right' thing this weekend.
We didn't have plans to hang out this weekend, I only found out today that she'd be here again.. so I'll go ahead with the party and let them know that we're available Sunday if they want to do something with us!
Thanks:)

Yeah, I think you tend to over think situations when there is prior frictions to take into consideration but if you removed those things you probably wouldn't have even thought twice so that tells me it's the right thing to do and if an issue comes up about it then that is their issue not yours, this was planned before you knew she was coming.

Thanks Deb! I know that you're very familiar with my sister issues! haha. You've helped me out alot actually! I think you're right and that I wouldn't have even thought about it had we not had issues prior.

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I wish I didn't have so much experience with the sister issues thing but well, you can choose your family, right?! :crazy:

I agree with what's been said, Alyson!! Enjoy your (VERY COOL) night with your friends! I'm jealous about a Twilight night with friends!!!

I agree with everyone!!! Enjoy your night and just let her know (if it comes up) that your already comitted to something else.