Parents of just boys check in!

[Lora]

I am the Mom to two beautiful boys. Christopher is 2 1/2 and Patrick just turned 1 year this month. I have to admit that I never imagined myself having just boys. I always dreamed of having a little girl to share a relationship with like I did with my mother. However, now that I have my boys I don't know how I would relate to a little girl. I just love being a Mom to my boys. I think I have gotten so used to doing all the "little boy" things it would be quite a change to have a girl. DH and I have discussed trying for a third child but no matter what we decide I will be quite content with just my two boys. If we do have #3 I will be thrilled to have a little girl but a part of me would not mind having yet another little baby boy.

I was wondering how other parents feel about having only boys. What challenges do you face raising only boys?

Lora

[Jen A]

I have two boys, aged 5 yrs and almost 21 months. :)

Honestly, I LOVE having boys! From about 10 wks in my 1st pregnancy, I was convinced Austin was a boy, and very excited. I never really had an urge to have a daughter, either. I had no idea about the sex of #2, and was quite happy when he turned out to be a boy, too.

The biggest challenge: trying to strike a balance between raising my boys as caring & compassionate human beings, yet having them be men, if you kwim. I want them to be tough yet tender, and that's a hard thing to do. I want to instill in them the kind of respect for women my MIL did with dh.

Having boys is a TON of fun.

[redhairedgirl]

I have an 8 month old son, Aiden. I always wanted a daughter. I feel so ashamed to say that... but it's the truth. I always pictured myself with a little girl. Afterall, I was such a girly girl myself.... I just figured I'd have a girl.

Then, I found out I was having a boy. While I sometimes wish there were as many cute clothes for boys as there are for girls, I don't care. Because I have more important things to spend my money on than all those clothes. :lol:
I am also concerned about raising Aiden to not be a wimpy Momma's boy. He is REALLY clingy to me. He is going through separation anxiety and I cannot go out of his sight. It really drives me batty sometimes. I'm just afraid he's going to be that man who is like 40, never married and calls me every single day.

There is also another thing that plagues me... my family has jewelry that has been handed down from generation to generation. And I always figured there would be a little girl to give it to. Well, now I'm scared that Aiden would marry and some witch would divorce him and try to run off with the jewels. Isn't that terrible? My husband says I think too much sometimes... but a prenup sure does linger in the back of my mind.... as well as hope of having a Granddaughter.
Oh, and Aiden will be an only child. I just honestly don't think I could get through that newborn stage again and come out a sane woman. I had bad PPD and suffered a herniated disc which pinched my sciatic nerve during Aiden's delivery. at 8 months post partum, I am now at a point where I'm not in paralyzing pain every day.

Mandy

[Lynn]

I have an 8 month old son, Aiden. I always wanted a daughter. I feel so ashamed to say that... but it's the truth. I always pictured myself with a little girl. Afterall, I was such a girly girl myself.... I just figured I'd have a girl.


I was SO sure we were having a girl. And I am embarrassed to say that I actually cried when we found out we were having a boy. But now, I honestly am thrilled with having Aaron. And for now, he's a great shopping buddy! :) If we have another boy I won't be upset because now I know how to care for a boy. And as a wise woman once told me :awink: with girls you have to look out for all penis's, but with a boy, you only look out for one! :lol:

[Jen A]

... And as a wise woman once told me :awink: with girls you have to look out for all penis's, but with a boy, you only look out for one! :lol:
:lol: Too true!

[bunybomb]

I'm a mom to a 19 month son and a 9 year old step-daughter. Growing up I always wanted a girl, but once I married my DH and got a girl in the package deal, I wanted nothing but to give birth to a boy. I got my wish.

I'm very blessed to have one of each, but there is a special love between mommy and son.

[Kate]

I am the mom to Cameron (2) and expecting our new son next month. I always wanted my first child to be a boy, so that he could look out for his younger siblings. And I got that with Cameron. I really wanted #2 to be a girl. When I found out I was pregnant I started looking at all of the girl clothes and day dreaming. Then at my big u/s the tech said boy, and I looked at her and said "Are you sure??", she told me 100%. At first I was disappointed, that my dream of a little girl vanished, but it was replaced with the awesome dream of Cameron and Alasdair hanging out together, playing baseball, wrestling, etc... And now I love the thought of my two boys and nothing could make me happier.

And now I don't have to deal with a teenage daughter like I was. :)

[koalita]

I have a 2-year-old son Jason and an 8-year-old stepson Nicholas. I'm pregnant with my second, and I find out tomorrow if it's a girl or another boy. I've always wanted a little girl, and I still kind of hope this one is a girl since it will be our last either way. But I love having a little boy so much! They are so much fun, and it is so cute to see Jason and Nicholas play together. Even though they're 6 years apart and they're only together on weekends, they're still so close. Since I always wanted a girl, I never knew how much fun having boys would be.

[EricaMG]

I have two sons. Adam is 25 months, Jared is 7 months. I am another person who never expected to have boys. I am from a very female dominated family, and expected to have more girls to add to the pile.

Challenges? Hmmm...I'll have to think that one through. I guess I worry a little bit about the fact that they are so close in age and at this point seem to be VERY similar. They look a ton alike, have hit milestones at exactly the same ages, and seem to have the same personality characterics/temperment. I hope to be able to recognize and support their similarities and individual differences as I see them, and hope these similarities don't hinder their relationship with each other by making them too competitive.

[redhairedgirl]

And now I don't have to deal with a teenage daughter like I was. :)
Isn't that the truth! Man, I was such a little b!tch growing up! :lol:

[abpmills]

Hi! My name is Angela and I almost 19 weeks pregnant with our second son. We just found out yesterday and are THRILLED! Our first son, Hayden, is almost 18 months old and Parker is due September 18. I look forward to watching our boys grow up together...it's gonna be great!

Angela

[Alyssa]

I've got 2 boys: Aidan 2 1/2 and Colin 14 months. I so wanted a little girl, and there is part of me that still does...not so much for now, but for 25 years from now. I love how close I am with my mom, and I want to be able to shop w/ my daughter when I'm older! I also fear that my boys will gravitate to their ILs more than us, since I know so many women who are closer to their family than their DH's. (But we're cool people! Why wouldn't the boys want to hang out w/ us later? :lol2: )

So honestly - my ONLY anxiety over having just boys is way down the line. I LOVE LOVE LOVE it now...even w/ my occasional jealousy when seeing little girls outfits and Barbie dolls and dress up clothes. I love that my boys are so close in age and I love that they (well, mostly still Aidan) is all boy and so into sports. Most of all, I know my DH is happier w/ boys...and he's home with them during the days, and therefore, it's a relief.

Like Lora, we are debating #3 and I can honestly say I won't be disappointed if I have another boy. I'll just hope for nieces. :biggrin:

[Mary DK]

I'm Mary and I have Eliot (3yrs old) and Ian will be joining our family sometime at the end of July.
I LOVE having a little boy, I really thought that I would be dissapointed not having a little girl but I'm really not, not at all! I've had so much fun with Eliot and I'm looking forward to having as much fun with Ian. And I love the idea of them growing together as partners in crime :lol: I also really enjoy seeing my hubby relate so well to Eliot and I know he will also do that with Ian... I don't think he would've related that well to a little girl. BTW, Eliot loves going shopping with Mommy & he even likes helping me pick out clothes for the family :awink:
My boss has 2 girls and to tell you the truth the thought of having to deal with all those hormones & mood swings (like she is right now) scares me... I have enough with dealing with my own!! :lol: I told Blair that I really need to thank my Mom for allowing me to survive my teenage years since I know that at time I wasn't the most pleasant teenager girl around :supergrin:
Like some of y'all pointed out... my goal is to raise my boys to be sensitive but strong men... just like my MIL did with my hubby :nod: I'm hoping that seeing how Daddy is respectful & protective of women and of his family will give them a great role model :aok:

[Linda]

Hi, I'm Linda and I have two boys. Walker (6 1/2) and Ty (4 1/2).

Ah, the challenges. My boys seem to be older than most of the ones posted here, so I will not horrify you with the awful almost-two's, terrible two's, traumatic three's, ferocious four's, etc.

Sometimes mine get along beautifully (for 30 seconds at a time!) and other times I want to have them duel to the death so the petty little fights will stop. I think the biggest challenge is that Walker spends all day at school being on his best behaviour and trying hard to be an attentive, well-mannered student that he comes home to find out Ty got to use the playstation or whatever, and then there's a meltdown. Unfortunately for me, they both have my stubborn, argumentative streak and so things can get loud and out of hand pretty quickly. I don't notice this fighting among my nephews (also 2 years apart) so I don't know if it's just mine or not. ANYTHING can be the start of an argument. Maybe they need to be put in a debating club or karate or something. The funny thing is, for being so much alike, they are so different!

I love them dearly, even if they drive me crazy :complain: ! Girls, schmirls.