A Facebook WWYD

[Clare]

Recently I've been thinking about the families that I used to nanny for in the UK and thought I would try to contact them and see what they are all up to. The one family in London still seem to live at the same address, but I can't find an email address for the parents. However, I have found both of the kids on Facebook. They are now aged 17 and 15. I was their nanny when they were 3 and 1! I would love to send them a message to catch up with them but I feel like a dirty old woman stalker. If the parents were on Facebook I would definitely message them, but b/c it's the kids I'm hesitating.

What do you think? Should I contact them or leave it?

[Jessica]

If you want to catch up with them, I'd send them a message on Facebook. It's not like you're showing up at their house or anything. You could even say in your message that you'd love to catch up with them AND their parents.

[Michele]

It's funny you ask this, Clare. I found one of the kids I used to nanny for when I was in college. I haven't sent him a message for the same reason. I would love to catch up with them though...so I'm interested in what other people think!

[Mary DK]

I agree with Jessica :nod: You can ask them if their parents have a Facebook account & if they wouldn't mind giving them your info so that you can catch up with them.

[MrsPeacefrog]

I would contact them, it's not like you are some stranger stalking teenage boys, you used to nanny them. I would send them a message telling them who you are and ask them if they would pass your email onto their parents because you would love to catch up and see how they are all doing.

[Melissa]

I would contact them, it's not like you are some stranger stalking teenage boys, you used to nanny them. I would send them a message telling them who you are and ask them if they would pass your email onto their parents because you would love to catch up and see how they are all doing.
:nod: You definitely aren't a stalker, especially not from Australia.

[LISA]

Clare, I don't think they would think you were stalking them ..contact them! ask how they and their parents are doing :nod:

[Alyson]

Clare, I agree with the others! A couple of years ago I found kids from a family that I used to babysit on Myspace. After some thought, I decided to contact them and am happy that I did. I hadn't seen them in just over 10 years, but it was nice to be back in touch. Esp since the one boy (well, was 23) died a couple of months ago.

[AmyP]

I'd contact them. I found two girls I taught dance to on MySpace, and they were both really excited to hear from me.

[Lynn]

I'd contact them too. :nod:

You inspired me to look up the 3 kids I used to babysit. One of them is a professional gamer and I emailed him. I haven't seen him since he was 8 and he's 23 now.

[Cami]

Well, my initial reaction would be to not contact them because as a parent, I'd think it a little odd that some "random" person was in touch with my kids. But I am way out of the loop and as it seems like a relatively common thing to do this, I guess it would be fine!

[Clare]

That's what I was thinking, Cami :nod: But then isn't that what Facebook and myspace are all about? :dunno: It's the fact that they are under 18 which is making me think about it. I'd be interested in hearing from those who do have nannies and hear their perspective (Bonnie, Stef?)

( I don't think that the 17yr old will think I'm trying to come on to him or anything because from his profile pic, it's pretty clear that he's gay! :shuffle: Not that there's anything wrong with that! :lol: )

[MrsPeacefrog]

I don't think you are a random person though, you are someone that has a history with this family, I think that is the difference. I also think if it's worded so that your aim is to actually be in contact with the parents it will go down just fine. Well it should. :lol:

[Cami]

Deb, I know, she's not a random person but for me, I'd be all like "how do I know that you really are Sweet Clare the Nanny and not some nutcase?" I think it's just my complete unfamiliarity with using Facebook/Myspace/etc, because as Clare said, that is the whole point of it. I think the way you word it makes a difference too so it's clear you're trying to talk to the parents.

Just disregard me, I am old. :lol:

[Alyssa]

I'd send them a note saying who you are and very clearly that you're hoping to pass a message onto their parents, who you'd not found an email for. Keep it simple. I think it's so fun to have these things to reconnect! :nod: