Family Vacation Question

[TtownAnne]

Would you go on vacation with your kids but without your husband? Alternatively, how would your husband feel if you proposed this idea?

[Lynn]

:nod: Yes, I would. Keith would probably be glad to be a bachelor for a few days since he's rarely - if ever - home alone. He would miss us but I think he'd be secretly glad.

[Hilary]

I've went to visit my family in South Dakota with just the kids, so I guess you could consider that a vacation. He didn't have a problem with it. Now if I went to like Disneyworld, I think that would be a little weird.

[Cami]

I would and have done it. I guess it depends on the circumstance. If it was the only vacation that we were taking or it was a really special trip that I know he'd want to go on, I wouldn't do it without him.

But in practical terms, the kids and I have three months of "free" time in the summer. I'm not going to not use that time just because he can't be with us for everything I'd like to do with the kids.

I think he's pretty much on board with this plan... he would be upset if I did something great with the kids without him (and like I said, I wouldn't do it) but he wouldn't be bothered in general if we did something without him.

ETA: And ditto, if he wanted to take the kids away for a few days, I'd pack their bags and shove them out the door. :lol: As long as they weren't going somewhere awesome that I'd want to go to too. :)

[Connie1222]

Yes, I've done it. Keith wouldn't mind at all. He'd love to be home alone. As would I!

[Shel]

I would kill for my husband to take the kids on vacation and leave me home alone :giggle: David gets a little defensive if I plan something without him (When's my turn? <whine>) so I don't go without him unless I'm just going to my my mom's or something

[Melissa]

I've went to visit my family in South Dakota with just the kids, so I guess you could consider that a vacation. He didn't have a problem with it. Now if I went to like Disneyworld, I think that would be a little weird.
I agree! I've taken Katie to visit my family and his family without DH and he is fine with it. I also agree about the DW comment too, that isn't something that I'd do either.

[Kara]

Yes I would and DH would be fine with it.

On the other side, he would take the kids and leave me but I don't know for how long LOL.

[Mandi]

I've done it quite a few times. :nod: It's a nice break. Now if only he'd take the kids and give ME a few days peace. :crossfing: :lol:

[Shanna]

John takes the kids to the inlaws some weekends and I get a weekend at home free :giggle: Doesn't bother me one BIT! :heee:

[Kimmy0712]

I have done it and DH is always fine with it. He likes to have his time alone. I have even gone to Disney without him on 2 occasions. The first was when i was pregnant with Alex and I went with my SIL's and the 2nd was also with my SIL's and Alex was 2 and Joshua was 9 months. Honestly at that time DH had NO desire to go to Disney. Since we went last year he now was a huge desire to go back and soon. So I would not be going without him anymore.

[~Deborah~]

Yes I would and have done it. I took Joshua to Ireland when he was 16 months old and I was 4 months pregnant with Kyle. Jay didn't have an issue with it.

[Michele]

I would, depending on where. I wouldn't go to Disney alone with the kids, but more b/c I think that would be NO fun for me (too much work) rather than b/c I'd be afraid of him feeling left out.

If the opportunity came up and for whatever reason he couldn't go, I know he wouldn't begrudge me a trip, and nor would I begrudge him if the situation was reversed.

[kalm]

I've had the kids alone at Disney World before (because Scott was back at our hotel attending a work conference). It wasn't a full day, but worked out fine. I've also taken the kids on short (overnight) trips on my own to visit friends.

Scott took Connor and Lilly to Disney on his own right after Brendan was born. It was a lot of work for him, but one of the greatest weekends in memory for me. :lol: I shopped for like nine hours on Saturday with my mom and the baby, then went to dinner with my brother and sil. The next day, I met a girlfriend for lunch and shopped some more. Then I did a little photo shoot with Brendan just before everyone else got home. To this day, Brendan's a good shopper, and I attribute it to that weekend. :lol:

[Karri]

Yep. I don't think I'd be brave enough to take all 3, but yeah, I would, and I think he would say the same, as well. Matter of fact, we've talked about him taking Aidan w/ him to go visit his brother in CA.

[Hannabanana]

Well... I probably wouldn't fly anywhere without him cause I like it when I don't have to use my own credit card :biggrin: ... but if you're suggesting a week away in a warm all inclusive where they had a kids club then I think that I could deal with that!

[marcy]

I'd go visit family with the kids by myself, but not a vacation-vacation. Mostly because it wouldn't be restful.

[Clare]

I'm the minority that's going to say no. Not because we can't be seperated or it's not fair on him or anything like that, but taking 3 kids on vacation is not a vacation for me when we both go, so it would be even worse if I was the only parent! I would come back a nervous wreck! :lol:

[LISA]

Oh I'm sure dh would be happy if I went on a family vacation with Paige and Cass and he stayed home, but it ain't gonna happen :nono: :lol: it almost KILLED him to take Paige to an amusement park the day the HP book came out ( so I could read it in peace)

[Mary DK]

Blair wouldn't mind as long as it wasn't somewhere he really wanted to go but I'm not sure that I would do it b/c like Clare mentioned, it wouldn't be a vacation for me at all :dead:

[sheila]

I'm on vacation in Hilton Head without him right now. Stagg is working, and although he thought about coming and working, I ended up asking him not to because I'd rather have him use his time off and really be off instead of having a working vacation which just means stress for everyone.

There are actually 3 moms in the house. Me, a widow, and the wife of an accountant. There are 8 kids here. It is amazing how smoothly things are going (epsecially since Katie spent the first day puking).

I do this vacation every spring break (this is year 4), and it is lovely. Stagg misses us, we miss him, but this is the best way for this particular vacation.

[Eva]

I would go with family or friends but I don't think I would take them alone. Not because I can't go alone but because it wouldn't be much of a vacation. maybe when they are older.

[KristenF]

I'm the minority that's going to say no. Not because we can't be seperated or it's not fair on him or anything like that, but taking 3 kids on vacation is not a vacation for me when we both go, so it would be even worse if I was the only parent! I would come back a nervous wreck! :lol:

Dit-to! It's not the theory of going away with the kids alone that I have a problem with, it's just that my kids are insane and I can't even wrap my brain around why I would do this to myself. :giggle:

That being said, Frank took the boys down to Cape May for 4 days last August by himself, and stayed in the hotel with him mom and stepdad, so for anyone who has heard me talk about them, you know that it was really like he was alone at the beach with 4 kids. :faint: The reason being, I was *supposed* to be pregnant with Jenn's baby, so he accepted his mom's invite and said he'd give me a break. Then, when the baby didn't happen like we planned (it happened better, of course :) ) I sort of didn't give Frank the option of re-nigging. :whistle: I mentioned to smil about feeling a little guilty, but she's on my team and she talked me out of it. So I got 3 1/2 days at home to myself. It rocked.

Though I have to say, I put some pressure on myself to accomplish things I can't get done when the kids are around (major cleaning/organizing/purgine toys, etc...) and it sucked some of the fun out of it-I spent half the time busting my butt, and of course didn't get everything done I wanted to get done, and in the end I was half disappointed that my list wasn't all crossed off, and half disappointed that I hadn't just laid around on my ass more.

[Kimberly]

I have and would again. Ali was only two and a half at the time, but it was a great trip and since she was the only child, it wasn't any harder than having her at home by myself.

[DarcyT]

I took my kids to the beach with a few of my family members about four years ago. It was okay. I was less stressed without DH since he usually hates the beach. :) If I were going alone then I wouldn't have gone. I had other adults going along from my family so that made it a bit easier.

[Wendy]

Abby and I have vacationed many times by ourselves. Sometimes for family obliations and some just for fun. In fact, this August we are having a girls weekend in Paris with my girlfriend and her little girl.

[schwanda]

I wouldn't want to fly with 3 kids by myself but I could imagine going on vacation with some/all of the kids without Tom...
Or better yet - Tom taking the kids on vacation without me!!! :lol:

Amanda

[kika]

I guess it depends on the ages of the kids. And if my mom will be on vacation with me.

I have flown without the kids and drove across country with them alone several times. I enjoy being on my own. My kids were older when we drove (well, like 2 and 4...and older). I couldn't imagine doing it with a newborn.

A couple of times I have convinced my parents to join me or meet me there (on vacation). If my mom was along with, I would enjoy some rest.

[Girlo]

I've done this several times. :) It's mostly been to visit family and friends who live out of town for a long weekend, so it hasn't been a super-fun trip that Paul felt bad about missing.

It's fun for both of us because it gives Alex and I some bonding time (this might be very different if I had more than one! :lol: ) and it gives Paul time alone at home. Quite often, we get home and Paul has completed some long-awaited project around house. :woot:

[milliez]

I took Kenny, Nicholas and Layla up to my parent's cabin back in 2006 and after 4 days, I was ready to lose my mind. They were 5, 3 and 9 months. I will do it again in a few years when they are all a bit older. It was just hard with their ages because one wanted to stay on the beach, and one wanted to swim and I couldn't split myself in two and they were both too young to be either place alone. Matt doesn't like it that much because he misses us, but I like to give him a bachelor break once a year if I can. He works so hard and deserves it.

~ Melissa