Question of the Day: April 6th

[Karly]

If you could go back in your life and change one event, what would you change and why?

[Alyssa]

I don't really regret anything, but if this can be called an "event" I wish I hadn't tried to date someone older (senior) so seriously my freshman year in college. I didn't concentrate on my work nearly as much and I didn't make many friends my own age, so it was harder for me the rest of college b/c while I had good friends, I didn't have great friends. Many of the cliques had already been formed and you can only break in so far as a latecomer. :)

[Karri]

I would never ever change anything, because I really believe that it has all led up to what I have now, and I wouldn't want to change that, KWIM?
However, Chris and I both wish that we had gone away for college - like out of state. Or travel abroad for a semester/year. I just think its the best time to get the travel bug out of your system. If we had, maybe we wouldn't have it now when we have children.

I did have the opportunity to do the abroad thing. I had the application in and approved and everything to do Poland w/ my best friend my soph year of college. And an asshole boyfriend kept me back. Bad call on my part.

So when it comes time for our children to go, we'll fully support them in their decision should they want to go away.

[magoo]

I wish that Eric and I had moved away somewhere for a year or two before having kids. I don't really know where, but somewhere far away.

[Trish]

I would have studied more in college :shuffle: Granted, I had a great time in college, but do wish I had taken my studies a little more seriously.

[Shel]

I would never ever change anything, because I really believe that it has all led up to what I have now, and I wouldn't want to change that, KWIM?

Absolutely. I think about getting pregnant with Kaleb and marrying someone I didn't really like because I was pregnant. Sometimes I think I'd like to change that, but then I wouldn't have the boys. I also grew a lot during that marriage and divorce, and I wouldn't be as content now if I hadn't been through the crap to make me fully appreciate my husband.

[Kate]

Absolutely. I think about getting pregnant with Kaleb and marrying someone I didn't really like because I was pregnant. Sometimes I think I'd like to change that, but then I wouldn't have the boys. I also grew a lot during that marriage.

Ditto...

I have become such a stronger person after going through everything that I have with S and it has made me a better person in the end.

[Alysia]

I would have rethought my decision to graduate early from high school. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had chosen to go for a full senior year. I feel like I missed out on a lot. But, at the time... I couldn't wait to be done with high school.

[sabrina]

I would not want to change anything. I like my life where it is right now and had I taken a different path then I would not have my two adorable children and a husband who loves me and has the desire to take care of me.

[MrsPeacefrog]

I agree with not changing anything due to being happy where I have ended up and the lessons I learned. BUT I would definately change something that I beleive would not effect the course of my life.

I wish I had lost weight for my wedding. After I turned 21 I started gaining weight rapidly I was diagnosed with PCOS and told of the domino cycle that insulin resistance has on my body and was told what to do to lose that weight. I kind of paid attention but didn't. When I got engaged everyone would start asking me if I was going to diet for my wedding. It enraged me, everyone was so hung up on "how I looked" and to me getting married wasn't about that. I was marrying the man I loved and believed the day was about that, not how I looked in a dress, so I rebelled and actually gained weight.

Now 7 years later when I look back at the photos I wish I hadn't have been so immature and rebelled. I wish I had swallowed my pride and decided for the day to be about both marrying the man I loved AND the way I looked, because I cringe at some of the photos and wish I had done something about it. :shuffle:

[AmyP]

I wish I had done more research on childbirth and such before I had Sarah. I still to this day feel like my c-section with her was completely unnecessary. I felt robbed of the experience. I didn't know any better then, and I trusted that my doctor knew best. I am moving forward from it and doing a lot of research before we TTC #2 because I want a VBAC. I'm not having another c-section without a fight!

There are plenty of other things I'd love to change, but like others have said, they shaped who I am today. While I haven't been divorced, I dated this guy for nearly four years before I started dating DH. He never treated me very well, and it makes me appreciate my husband so much!!

[Joan]

I would have studied more in college :shuffle: Granted, I had a great time in college, but do wish I had taken my studies a little more seriously.

Me too! I cruised in HS and college. I really wish I had seized the opportunity a bit more.

[Mary DK]

I would've stopped myself from joining my first on-line community :scan:



JUST KIDDING!!!! :lol: :whistle:
Truthfully, I wouldn't change anything. Yes there were some really bad times but like others I firmly believe that those times shaped my character to what it is now & I really like myself as I am now.

It actually scares me a bit when I think that things could've been different & I wouldn't be sitting here chatting with y'all about my wonderful/beautiful family :love:

[Karly]

I would change three things, and they are all financial. :lol:

- I would NOT have signed up with the stupid cooking pans company to buy a 14 peice set of cookware for $1200.
- I would NOT have purchased my car brand new giving myself a $320+ monthly payment in 1999. Instead, I wish I would have kept my Geo that was paid off in full.
-I would NOT have signed up to buy a timeshare in Maui while we were in Hawaii for our honeymoon. :disbelief That stupid thing caused so much heartache and irritation because of the maintenance fees and "mortgage" costs.

Looking back, all of these things were such stupid decisions at the time. BUT, had I not done them and realized just how stupid they really were, I may not have learned the lesson I needed to learn, you know? I just wish I could have learned the lesson WITHOUT making the mistakes. I'd be in a much better place financially now if I had! :lol:

[sunnyflower]

College related change: I think I would have gone for a major at the School of Management vs a major in the liberal arts area. As much as I love teaching and all my great vacation time, I always wonder if being in a different field would be better.

And I certainly would change the jerk I went out with in high school. Not Kate's brother ( :) ), but the one that came after. He was a jerk and I shouild have gotten rid of him quicker than I did.

Kerrie

[Clare]

I agree that every decision, good or bad has led me to where I am now. But saying that, if I could go back I would stay in school and go on to university and I would definitely not go out with two dickheads that I did.