QOTD: January 29

[sheila]

This one comes from a friend, and is a little deep for a Monday morning.

Do you ask the question "Why me?"
What answers have you come up with?

[schwanda]

I don't usually ask "why me?"
I'm a big believer in the concept that we all make our own luck. I know that bad things happen to good people but I also believe that we each control our own destiny. It's not about how many bad things happen to you but how you decide to react to them. I try to be a "take lemons and make lemonade" kind of person. I do fall prey to self-pity at various points in time. When that happens I try to remind myself that I've made my own choices and I need to work through the consequences.

Amanda

[Melissa]

That is a question that I used to ask myself, but I stopped after my brother was diagnosed with leukemia. I realized that bad stuff doesn't just happen to "other people." At that point my family was "other people." That really brought home that "why me" doesn't work, a better question is "why not me?" If bad things can happen to everyone, why couldn't it happen to me?

So, I no longer ask my question that, I just deal with the crap head on.

[Karri]

Wow.
Its not often that I ask "why me". When I do, I just give myself that generic answer: "that which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger." (and makes you drink :shuffle: )

[Nichole]

Heavy one today!

I don't think I really do the "why me?" thing, because when I start to I remember that there are other people out there dealing with more/worse things than I am. I don't really believe that things happen because someone deserves them or doesn't deserve them. They just happen and you just deal with them the best you can.

[Karri]

I don't really believe that things happen because someone deserves them or doesn't deserve them. They just happen and you just deal with them the best you can.

ITA with that, BTW. I guess I meant to say that. And then you deal with it and it makes you stronger.

[TtownAnne]

When I do find myself saying "why me" (which is not often), I generally make an effort to say "why not me?" In meaning along the lines of what makes me think I'm so special I shouldn't have to deal with problems like everyone else does?

[sabrina]

I guess I don't necessarily think "why me." I tend to think more "okay, Lord, what is it you want me to learn from this." And then I pray for wisdom.

[Alysia]

Oh yes...

Although it's usually "Why Us" in reference to DH and I.
My answer is always "I wish I knew" or "I don't know"

[Dennis]

Am I the only one who thinks of this in a positive way as well? Sometimes I think "why me?" when I think about how lucky I am to have a wonderful wife and two fantastic kids.

Dennis

[magoo]

To be perfectly honest, I've never really had a good reason to ask "Why me?" I realise how lucky I am and I am extremely thankful for that.

That being said, I think along the lines of those who have answered with "why not me?"

[Melissa]

Am I the only one who thinks of this in a positive way as well? Sometimes I think "why me?" when I think about how lucky I am to have a wonderful wife and two fantastic kids.

Dennis
That's interesting. There are days that I am thankful that our family is so healthy, especially when watching or thinking about the news.

[MrsPeacefrog]

Am I the only one who thinks of this in a positive way as well? Sometimes I think "why me?" when I think about how lucky I am to have a wonderful wife and two fantastic kids.

Dennis

You know, I find it interesting that you would find questioning why you were so lucky to get what you are blessed with as a positive thing.

I kind of look at that as a self doubt thing :dunno: which to me is negative.


I don't ask "why me?" in a negative or a positive way. I just take what I am given and do my best with it. Good or bad.

[LISA]

I do ask myself "why me" sometimes and then I give my head a shake and realize that sure I may not be rich and live in a big fancy shmancy house but my family is happy( reasonably so) and healthy...and there are plenty of people who are far far worse off and I have no right to complain at all about life..(my life not judging anyone else)