I'm doing a poll to see what others would do. 18 months ago my DH and I bought a house out in the sticks. Not so rural, but enough that going grocery shopping is a 1/2 day event and going out for a quick dinner is impossible. We are 10 miles to the nearest grocery store. We live in a beautiful community, our daughter's school is 2 blocks from home and our son's daycare is 4 miles from home on the way to work. But nothing else around us. It takes 20 minutes from our house, just to "get on the road" to go somewhere. We didn't always feel like we lived in the middle of nowhere.

So DH and I would really like to move, however that would mean that our daughter would have to change schools again. We talked about moving when DD starts Jr. High and DS will start kindergarten, that would be in 3 years. But, I don't know if we can wait that long. We are both tired of the extended driving and the chore to complete simple errands.

What would you do?

I'd move soon. Junior high is hard enough, I'm sure it would be a lot harder on her starting it as the new kid. This way she'll have time to make friends before she starts. Plus it sounds like you are beginning to really hate all the driving, I'm sure that you'll just hate it more as time goes on.

Where do you live Becky?

Dennis

I agree... I would move before junior high starts... we moved when I was starting 8th grade and I hated it....

I agree--I would move soon so that she doesn't have to start junior high in a new area. Moving while she is in elementary school will mean she's in a more structured and supportive school as opposed to the somewhat impersonal (lots of different teachers) junior high atmosphere.

I should clarify that our daughter will attend the same jr. high as she would if we continue to live where we do now. Does that change your opinions at all?

Dennis, we live in Roxborough, south of Chatfield.

Becky, Roxborough is way out there!

I would still move now because it sounds like you are just going to get more and more tired of the inconvenience, and 3 years is a long time.

Dennis

Becky, Roxborough is way out there!

Dennis
:nod: you got that right! It wasn't bad when I worked part time. It's a great area for stay at home moms that don't worry about daycare, activities, dentist appts. and grocery shopping. Now that I work full time again, it's not convenient. Our daughter can't play sports or do activities because logistically I can't get her there after school, and my DH doesn't have the flexibility at his job.

I just want to make sure we (DH and I) aren't being selfish. We want to move for our sanity and for our children's quality of life.

:nod: you got that right! It wasn't bad when I worked part time. It's a great area for stay at home moms that don't worry about daycare, activities, dentist appts. and grocery shopping. Now that I work full time again, it's not convenient. Our daughter can't play sports or do activities because logistically I can't get her there after school, and my DH doesn't have the flexibility at his job.

I just want to make sure we (DH and I) aren't being selfish. We want to move for our sanity and for our children's quality of life.
If I recall your daughter is about 11? What does she think of a move? Have you told her about her playing sports or doing activities more if you move? And although she wouldn't go to the same elementary school, she'd still have her friends from there and new friends when she goes to junior high. I don't think saving your sanity is considered selfish, I think it is a necessity. :) Summer would be the best time, I imagine, she can be playing or riding bikes and find some kids and get used to where the new school will be.