Seperation anxiety with a twist

[MrsPeacefrog]

Can you remind me how long this lasts! :gah:

Jacob is hysterical when I leave the room, or walk out the door, if he actually see's me leaving he will not settle at all till I get back. If he doesn't see me go he is alot better.

But I can handle that part, the part that is driving me seriously insane is that he wants me to hold him and pick him up ALL the time. It's beyond frustrating and I am starting to not be able to handle it. I am on my last nerve. If I sit on the couch he crawls straight over to me and wants me to pick him up and he is able to climb now so he just climbs straight up onto me, but of course he is then squirmy and wants down, then he wants up, then down (see a pattern). If I am in the kitchen he will stand at the gate screaming for me. Or if I am able to distract him with a toy or his brothers and escape into another room of the house, when I come back and he gets a glimpse of me he just immediately dumps what he is doing, lifts his arms up and does the pick me up sign and starts crying. :blue:

I love him to death but it's getting to be TOO MUCH! I have tried just not picking him up but he just screams and screams till he finally gets his way. There is only so long I can let him scream, he wants me and I want to be there for him, but I am exhausted by it. I can't get anything done.

I don't remember it being this bad with my first two. Anyone else dealing or dealt with this?

[Clare]

I'm still dealing with it 7 years later! :lol: Seriously, I can't go to the toilet without being accompanied by one, two or three little people :rolleyes: It's really starting to bug me too, but I figure when they're teenagers they won't want a bar of me so I should enjoy while they do! :lol:

From what I remember, seperation anxiety peaks between 8 and 11 months and can last up till 18 months or so. It's a very normal phase (and also a normal reaction from you!) :hug99:

[MrsPeacefrog]

Thanks, Clare.

It truly is getting beyond frustrating. I think the worst part is that Tony can't handle the high pitched screams that come out of him, and wants it to stop, but isn't willing to be the one to pick him up and comfort him instead of me. So of course his attachment to me is stronger!

Don't get me wrong, he does pick him up and play with him, but only when it suits him :rolleyes:

I feel like I don't ever have a free moment, earlier this morning I was trying to print out invoices and I had Jacob on my lap, Riley on my right and Aiden on my left all clinging to me. :crazy: I don't know what I would do if I had 4! :lol2:

[Silke]

My 11 year is still following me to the bathroom, and I have to admit I still do that to my mother at times :lol:

Separation anxiety is worst until about 12 months. After that I would say it comes and goes.

[MrsPeacefrog]

:lol: I know I have many years of it ahead of me. I guess I just can't wait for the "ah ah ah ah ah" noises that come with it and when you don't pick them up the crying :blue: Makes me so sad to hear his tears but if I held him all day I would never get anything done, and he will never learn to walk.

I was having a really weak moment when I typed that post, it was at it's peak. Tony has been good with him today which has given me the chance to cook dinner and do what I have to do with out hearing the tears.

I just can't wait for this extreme stage to be over!

[shasta]

DD2 is a big "mommy girl". I can't be out of her sight for too long, she'll fuss, even if she's with her dad. I know it's hard on him, he wants to comfort her, but he can't. She wants her mom and there's nothing I can do about that. He'll hold her so I can get things done, but he's got to keep her in the same room with me. I am looking forward to when she doesn't need to be with me all the time.