How long apart

[Jayne]

Dan is going to be going to china. VERY Soon actually from the sounds of things. We don't have a definate yet but it is no matter what going to happen between now and November when his Visa that they spent 500$ to rush on runs out. He will be going anywhere from 10-14 days. We were talking last night and realized we have never been apart for more then 4 days in the past 12.5 years. I know people do it but we haven't. I know I can do it..just a bit scary.

So..what is the longest you and DH have been apart?

Why were you apart?

[Eva]

We were apart for 10 days but that was before we were married. He went to Germany for a big trade show for work. While we have been married, the longest was 5 days. He went to Rome for work while I was pregnant with Emma.

[Mandi]

Michael and I have been together for 10 years. We've been apart quite a bit. I think the longest was probably around 3 weeks. Some of the seperations were work related, sometimes it was me visiting family back east, etc. I don't really mind the time apart. We miss each other, but I figure it's good for our relationship to be apart from time to time.

[Karri]

I think it was 7 days and it was for work-related travel. Chris travels a lot (typically 3 weeks out of the month), but he's typically only gone for 3 days, 4 at most. So I guess I am used to it. It can get hard w/ the kids, but I don't miss him terribly. I miss him as a parent and I miss him in bed, but I enjoy my alone time :heee:

[Michele]

Scott and I have been together for 8 years, the longest we've been apart was the month I was in Europe after I graduated from college. Since we've been married, the longest we've been apart is a week when he was away on business. The longest we've been apart since we've had kids would be almost a week - he went away from Sunday-Friday when Jackson was about 9 months old. Typically when he travels for business it is only for 2-3 days.

[Suzi]

Chris and I have been apart quite a bit. I travel to my best friend's house often and he stays home. He travels for work and I stay home. The longest we have been apart is probably 2 weeks when he had to travel for work and I left before he did to go to my best friend's house and he came home after me. I enjoy the times that Chris is gone - I lived by myself for years and there are times I REALLY miss it. :nod:

[Jayne]

I enjoy the times that Chris is gone - I lived by myself for years and there are times I REALLY miss it. :nod:

I think this is why it really scares me a bit. I am independent and I know I can do things myself but I have NEVER been alone. I went from my parents house to this house with Dan. I had a child before I graduated High school so there was never any real alone time at all. I know that last year while he was in Charleston with his parents and I was home with the kids I really missed him but then again I know a lot of it was the stress of the accident and taking care of Tylor on my own.

[Cami]

Before we were married and after marriage/before kids, we were apart pretty often. We both traveled for work and his was mostly international so he'd be gone at least a week at a time.

We moved when I was pregnant with Addison and were apart for a month. When we moved this year, we were apart for three weeks. And again last month, I took the kids to the US for three weeks without him.

It's kind of nice to be alone in the house and do just what I want to, but I get tired of it by the end of a week... I think that's about my limit.

[Dennis]

The longest we've been apart is a week, when I took Frances to NJ in May.

Jayne, I'm sure it will be fine.

[Lynn]

It can get hard w/ the kids, but I don't miss him terribly. I miss him as a parent and I miss him in bed, but I enjoy my alone time :heee:
Oh, me too! The longest we've gone is (I think) a week. Since being back at this job it's only been a few days.

I actually like it when he goes away. :blush: I don't feel like I need to be ultra-clean, I can do the laundry and not have there be 10 new dirty things in it in the morning, and I can eat whatever I want whenever I want.

[Bev]

I think 3 weeks? :scratch: He goes on course a lot of time for work. The longest was when he was in Quebec City in 2001 for the G-7 conference where they had all the riots and stuff. Mason was born about 9 months after he got back. :awink:

I rather like it when he goes away. Then I don't expect him to do stuff and get pissed at him for not doing it; I know I have to do it myself and it's just easier. :)

[marcy]

Before we were married, the longest time we were apart is 3 months. That's because he was stationed in Germany and I'd go visit about every three months for about a week at a time. That was for a year.

After we were married, I traveled a lot for work so usually we'd be apart for 5 days. But the longest after we were married is a month when he moved to start his new job and I remained in Texas. In a span of two months, I saw him once for a weekend. :(

[TtownAnne]

Hmmm. We were apart for about 4 days just after we got engaged when he had to go to a week-long training thing for work. He's going to Vegas for almost a full week in November for a convention, and now I see by the computer he's apparently going to Georgia for a few days for some business valuation course and a test but I don't know when that will be yet. :dunno: So it hasn't been often, just because his job doesn't demand it and anything else we generally go to as a family.

[Silke]

The longest we have been apart was 6 months, and I was pregnant with bedrest later by my lonesome. Our separation was military induced.

[Shel]

We're pathetic. We never go anywhere!! Although we work different shifts and aren't in bed together at night, we at least see each other for a few minutes every day. He was gone for 5 days when he had his surgery, but he was a whole 20 minutes away. I was gone for 2 days for the scrap retreat, but still only 45 minutes from home.

We're losers :lol:

[Darcy]

The longest we were apart was when Riley was about 10 months old and Phil had to go to Texas on business for 5 days. He does't travel often, maybe twice a year. He just went to Florida last week for 3 days.

I'm not a big fan of being in a house by myself at night. Plus with two kids, I need help, so luckily my parents live about 30 miles away. We usually head over there and spend the night when Phil's gone.

[LISA]

Dh had to work on reactors in Korea when we were first dating, he was gone for 4-5 months..it sucked. Other than that he used to take many buisness trips most were a few day's.. he went to Oklahoma 2 day's after the bombing for about a week, I hated that one.

[Lyoshka]

The longest we were apart would have to be last summer, when I was pg and went home, to Russia. We were planning to go together, but visa things fell through for him, so I went by myself (well, with Nikita in belly hehe). I was gone for 3 weeks, and he left to go see his brother for a week on the very tail-end of my trip (he was able to get a seat on the same flight as his sister who bought her ticket beforehand), so I didn't see him for almost a month.

I travel with my business much more than D does, but the few times he does leave, I miss him, but enjoy the house all to myself. Though I do have to say, that week last summer I wanted him to come home so bad, being alone in a big house all of a sudden didn't seem fun.. Now that we have a baby and I never have me time, seems like, I would love the house all to myself, I think.

[MrsPeacefrog]

The longest we have been apart is 2 days. We tend to go everywhere together, yikes I was racking my brain to think of time apart and couldn't really come up with anything!

Even though with his stupid shift work we are ships passing in the night, he sleeps when I am awake and vice versa, but technically he is still here :lol:

[bunybomb]

1 week and we've been together for almost 8 years. I travel for business but he doesn't very often. When he does it's 2 days max.

[Girlo]

Paul and I have been together 8 years and the longest I think we've been apart is 3-4 days, and there have been several of those times - weekends where I've visited friends without him and a couple of business trips for Paul.

Like Lynn, I kinda like it when he's gone. :heee: Of course, if he were gone all the time, it would wear me down, but once in a while is kinda nice. I also lived on my own for several years and it lets me relive the old days a little. :lol:

[Clare]

I can't remember. We've been together for 10 years and have spent a fair bit of time apart. When we first met we were working in Europe and were often in different countries. We wouldn't see each other for weeks. Before the kids I worked in travel so travelled a lot. I'd be away for up to a week about once a month. Alex travels for work now, but only a few times a year. I'm thinking the longest we've been apart since we've been living together is the 2 weeks or so before our wedding. I went over to Sydney a couple of weeks early to finalise everything and he arrive a couple of days before the wedding.

[Eleanor]

Since we've been married? Probably about a week- on respective business trips.
Before we were married...a lot. We were in a long distance relationship for the first 4 years. We only saw each other about 1 weekend a month.

[Alyssa]

We've been together for 7.5 years, and the longest apart was this May when we went to Latvia for 3 weeks for hockey. The past few years he's done several other 10 day - 2 week hockey trips too, and very often he's gone for hockey for 3-4 days. I travel about 6 times a year for work, up to a week at a time. Frankly, it works really well for us b/c I cherish alone time, even when I've got the kids I at least have my nights to myself. :shuffle:

[Melissa]

A little over a week I think. There have been times that I've taken Katie to visit family (mine and his!) where he couldn't get the time off, so he was home alone and working. Each time I come back and the house is a mess. :rolleyes: For him to leave me home, I think the longest was 2 or 3 nights on business.

[AmyP]

3-4 days, I think. I traveled from time to time at this one job I had. And I was away for essentially 3 days at the scrap retreat. That was about it.

[Kara]

we've been together 10 1/2 years and furthest apart was probably 6 days...for his May annual Nascar trip...

[nicolet]

Does 7 months count?

DH was at the police acadamy for 7 months. He was able to come home every other weekend. So we would see him from about 6:00 on Friday and he would have to leave about 6:00 that Sunday. Austin was about 2 1/2. On the weekends that he couldn't come home I would drive Austin and myself 2 hours each way to be able to see him for 4 hours on Sunday.

It sucked!!!

[WendyK]

We have been together 8 years and the longest we have been apart has been 7 days. We actually do this quite frequently due to DH's work schedule and travel. Plus when we first got engaged I was working in Michigan during the week and only home on weekends for several months.

[Bonnie]

We were apart 2 weeks before we got married when I went to Sweden. Since we've been married, but before kids, we were apart one week when I went to NY for a wedding... after kids, we've been apart no longer than one night.

[Alysia]

We've been together for 8 years. We were apart for 6 weeks after we got married because we were in the process of moving from Phoenix to Seattle.

[Bridget]

We both used to travel a lot for business, although the big one was when he went back and forth to China for the better part of a year... two weeks there, two weeks home (roughly).

Since having the kids, he'd be gone maybe 2-3 nights max. Now it's generally only overnighters. I pretty much had to eliminate my business travel, so nothing much for me... my longest was probably four days, but that was before having kids. :)

[~Deborah~]

2 weeks when I had an around the world trip (still kicking myself for not calling Deb when I was in Bali :doh: ) for work.