fed up stepmom

[april]

I really need so help with advice on how to deal with my husbands ex. We have 3 children i have one from previous he has one then we have our child. my stepsons mother is impossible she does not want me to spend time with him she makes up rumors that i do drugs which i dont. we have my stepson for 7 days then he goes to his mothers for 7 days. she tells him lies about me those a fit in front of the kids she calls 30 times a day comes over beats on my door when we have him if my husband by chance has to work on his 7 off she demands that she gets him and that he cant not stay with me and his sisters. my husband does not do anything about it she can say and do want she wants and he does not stick up for me or our family. It is causing so much stress on me that i honestly don't know if i can stay in this marraige i love him so much and want to do everything i can to make this work but it seems that he would rather fight with me than her. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Nichole]

I'm sorry you're in such a tough spot. :hug99: It sounds like your whole family could benefit from some family counseling. Your husband should be standing up for you, and I'm sorry he isn't. It's his job as the parent and ex-spouse to deal with those issues and he shouldn't expect you to bear the brunt of it all. That is not healthy for your marriage. :( If you're unable to convince him that counseling is necessary, it would be a good idea to go by yourself. Good luck!

[april]

I agree we need outside help, it kills me to think of how much in love we were to what we are now the stress has really torn us apart. my husband ex is married has 3 children including a step child and one on the way. She will not rest until our marriage is over, and not to mention my husbands family invites her to family functions and talks about her non stop. I feel so alone in all of this, and i am tired of crying and dealing with this my kid are to important for them to go through this.

[MrsPeacefrog]

:hug99: it sounds like a horrible situation. I agree that you need to get outside help, until he see's what he is doing and how he is assisting her with this Chaos then it will not get better.

I hope you get the help you guys need, you are right your children deserve way better than this!

[Lyoshka]

April, I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds horrible. You definitely need some counseling. Have you talked to your husband about how all of this is making you feel? He needs to realize just how serious this is.

[april]

I have talked to my husband about how it makes me feel, I get really heated when we discuss this. I know it has to be hard on him to. I know without a doubt in my mind he loves me so much. He just tells me he cant control her which is true. They were never married but were together for 6 years, she cheated on him and got pregneant with my husbands best friend, so my husband left her. I think that she is really jelouse of us because she will make remarks to my sister inlaw, like she didnt want to come to my stepsons t ball practice cause she didnt want to see us being all lovey dovey whatever that means. My husband and i have a great relasionship we never even had a disagreement until she started in and causing all sorts of problems. For instants i went to go pick my daughter and my stepson up from pre school she stopped in the middle of the road to get out and talk to me well my stepson rolled down the window and she dragged him out and took him. I mean i could go on and on about this, cause she seriously has problems. I know i found my one true love in my husband and i am his he has told me over and over that he never knew what love was until he met me. But i guess i can be a little insecure and thats not good. But stuff has go to change things got so bad after we had our daughter 8 months ago that she was making me have anxiety attack and i had to take med. for it. I shouldnt let her get to me but its hard. on our week with my stepson she will show up everywhere we are soccer practice swimming lessons doctors appt. i mean everywhere like she wants to make sure her presence is knowen, it is very annoying to have to see her everywhere.