I think my daughter is having tantrums. She is 19 months old. She will start crying, yelling, throwing, kicking, thrashing/rolling on the floor, usually when she is frustrated or tired. Her teachers say she doesn't behave this way at school, and it is worst when she comes home after school in the late afternoon. Does this sound like tantrums? I have read they can start before two years. I don't know what to do when she behaves this way... sometimes I will gently ask her what's wrong and to use her words to tell mommy what's wrong; sometimes I can see what she is frustrated about and will intervene a little when I see the tantrum kicking in; once I left the room completely and it stopped immediately. Sometimes I stand gape-mouthed that my sweet baby is acting this way and am at a total loss. Usually it pushes my hot-button and i have to really take a deep breath so I don't get mad. Any advice for a tantrum newbie? :help2:

Yes they are tantrums and they are totally normal. Ignoring them seems to be the best strategy.

I was just thinking about this an hour ago when Brady (18 mos) woke up, threw himself on the floor, kicking and crying. I remember Aubrey did the same thing. I can't remember how old she was but probably about the same age.

I think with both my kids, it was/is frustration. I just ignore him while he's crying. If he's just starting to get into it, I'll tell him calmly that he needs to tell me what he wants. For Aubrey, it improved when she learned to talk better.

my kids are at their worst after daycare as well, especially gianna (20 months). they are tired, usually a little hungry, and definately just wound up from the day.

i ignore her tantrums, or often i put her in her crib for some quiet time. she doesn't sleep but she will relax, and i get her out when she gets antsy.

Sarah's 16 months and does a lot of the same stuff. She's not talking yet, so that makes it worse. I just ignore her until she calms down if I know she's just yelling and isn't hungry or anything.

Same here. Brenna's tough time is right after she gets home from daycare and right up until dinner. She'll lay on the couch a relax or like tonight we sat in her room and read books or I told her silly stories.

~Kerrie

Yes, as others said, she's probably over tired and doesn't know how to deal with her frustrations so they come out in tantrums. I've also heard that they usually save it for the parents because home is where they feel comfortable showing their emotions.

My youngest started super early with the tantrums, around 11 months old. She would scream, stomp her feet and throw herself on the floor when she would not get her way. It was hard because at such a young age, you feel like you should try to help them.

Ignoring them is about the only way to deal with them unfortunately. Sometime distraction works, but if it doesn't, just walk away and pretend she's not acting that way. They will eventually stop. My daughter doesn't have them nearly as much and she's 16 months old now so hopefully starting early will mean she'll outgrow them early too :thumbsup:

I've been trying my best to ignore her tantrums but it's hard. Friday was her last day at daycare and it seems that the days she doesn't go to daycare are better in the tantrum department. She also has them more for me than for daddy. He asked me how long this will last and I wasn't sure but I think once she begins talking better it will ease up? Sometimes when it's really bad I just chuckle to myself and hope the neighbors are getting payback for all the earth-shattering noise their children have made in the past 1 1/2 years (they are just a tad older than Catherine). :devilange