Failure to RSVP. What do you do?

[MrsPeacefrog]

The RSVP date for Aidens 4th Birthday was yesterday. Now I only invited a small number of people, half from his daycare and the other half of family friends.

The majority of who we invited replied, yes. I have the minimum number of kids I need (8) but 3 of Aidens daycare friends did not reply. 3 of the other daycare friends did reply yes so he will have some of them there. BUT I am so annoyed that the other 3 didn't RSVP.. who does that :scratch: ESPECIALLY one of them who is his "best" friend at daycare, we just went to HIS 4th brithday party in March.

Do I leave a little reminder note in there pigeon hole at daycare or do I just let it go :dunno:

[Bev]

I would leave a reminder note and/or telephone. Which defeats the whole purpose of the RSVP but you can't really go around :angrywife or you'll get into trouble. Even though that's what you should be doing!

[Eva]

This is my biggest pet peeve :fado: How hard is it to RSVP. I would send a note or give them a call. :not: I had to send out reminder emails to a few people last year. Especially since you are having the party at a center, people should be more considerate. :hug99:

[MrsPeacefrog]

I know that's what I was thinking. How hard is it to let me know either way. I have an answering machine they could have left a message on

I don't know there numbers, I am not friends with them, these are just kids that I know Aiden plays with at daycare and he was invited to their birthdays.

I am so glad that I decided to invite more than the original 8 I was going to invite for the "just in case" factor...because I had to pay for 8 minimum!

I need the final numbers by this weekend, I thought of leaving it today and if I still don't hear anything then I will pop into the daycare and leave a little reminder note in there slots.. I just wasn't sure if that was pushy and rude (even though they are being the rude ones!!)

[Clare]

Oh Deb, I feel for you! I've had so many problems with rude people not rsvping :angry2: Daycare parents are the worst IMO. I would leave a reminder in their locker. If they still don't respond then write them off. And if they show up say, oh sorry you didn't reply and we haven't catered for you! :devil:

[Dennis]

I'd leave reminder notes for them.

[MrsPeacefrog]

Clare: that is exactly what I was thinking, what if they turn up and they aren't on the list then I am put in the position.. I hate that!

Okay well when I pick up the boys from daycare this afternoon I will leave a little note in there locker.

I am thinking of writing something along the lines of:

Just a little note to check that you received Aiden's 4th Birthday invitation I left in your locker a few weeks back. I need to let the centre know the numbers in the next few days, so if you can get back to me asap it would be greatly appreciated.

Deb
xxxx-xxxx (phone number)


What do you think?

[Clare]

Yep that sounds good.

[Julie]

That sounds good :aok:

But unless I am planning on going to the party, I don't always RSVP to say No... Is that really bad???

[MrsPeacefrog]

Julie: I tend to say yes that is bad, (you naughty girl :lol: ) because RSVP means a yes or a no. I don't know what the official etiquette rules are but I always presumed you should call either way. :dunno:

To be honest I am suprised by his "best friend" because I talked to his mother about it a few weeks ago and she said he will be excited to get the invite. But now she hasn't RSVP'd I just don't know.

I also found out this morning when I dropped off the kids that she only takes her son into daycare on Mondays now so if she has already picked up R before I pick up the kids she won't get my note till NEXT Monday which will be too late.. so I guess I will have to right him off... I am so sad for Aiden, he keeps asking me if R is coming to his Wiggly birthday and I don't know what to tell him now :blue:

[MrsPeacefrog]

Okay just wanted to give an update:

I went to pick up the boys from daycare and before I started putting the notes into the NON rsvpers lockers I checked my own and found a note in there from Aiden's "best friends" mother saying that R had liked the invite so much he was walking around with it and took it everywhere with him. She had forgotten all about it till she came across the envelope and it twigged her memory. She was terrified that the party had already happened and asked for me to call her immediately.

I gave her a call and she was relieved to hear that the party had not happened yet and has RSVP'd yes.

I left the note in the other two lockers and I got a call soon after walking in the door with another yes RSVP.

So there is only one more I am waiting on.

I feel better now because I was able to tell Aiden that R is coming. He is so excited!! :love1:

[Theresa]

Not RSVP'ing is one of my biggest pet peeves. Really. How hard is it pick up the phone? Anyway, I think I would have left notes, too. I'm glad Aidan's best friend is coming! :woo:

[Bev]

I didn't get any RSVPs from DH's family for the wedding. I knew some of them were coming but not all of them did. We knew which ones would and wouldn't but still.

MIL said she didn't because we knew she was coming and she wanted to keep the little card. Well shit, I would have given it back to you! Now I wasted money on a stamp! HATE non-RSVPers! :mad:

Glad Aiden's friend is coming! :ura1:

[MrsPeacefrog]

ACK Bev, that is so wrong! I mean Aiden's is a 4th Birthday so even though rude it's no where near as bad as a wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jmlizzy]

I have to admit that I used to be a poor RSVP'er myself untill I discovered the importance of it when I was getting married. Now I always promtly return it, even if I dont plan to attend the event.

So glad to hear that his BF will be attending the party!

[Clare]

So glad to hear that Aiden's best friend is coming!!

[Dennis]

Glad his friend is coming!

[marcy]

I'm glad you received the responses - hope you got the last response too.