Ok. Aiden's infatuation...no...it's an obsession is his pahpie. He's almost 27 months old and even though he doesn't use it all day long at daycare, the moment he's in the car and at home he's got to have his pahpie. Now my daughter doesn't take one like Aiden. I've mentioned to him that Big boys don't use pahpies. That it's time to throw them away. Everytime I mention that, I get a "No...my pahpie."

Now, when we get out of the car, go to my parents house or anywhere else, he'll leave his pacifier in the car. I don't know what to do. I'll take any advice.

My niece was 4 1/2 when my sister finally got her broken from them. She cut the tops off of them all, then a day or so later, she and Hailey went and gave them "to the squirrels" because the squirrels needed them :lol: Worked like a charm! :lol: I dont' have any experience with breaking my kids b/c they had foot 'n' mouth quite a while back and it broke the girls of them :dunno:

We just took Riley's away from her right before her second birthday. She really missed it the first 2 days, but afterward she didn't even think ask about it.

She hadn't been allowed to have a paci at daycare once she turned 1, so we really had to wean her of it in the car and at bedtime. The car was a lot harder since the ride to daycare was close to an hour. But we were also pretty lucky in that she only took the newborn paci, so really getting rid of it was getting rid of something so tiny that it made sense she didn't miss it. :lol:

So for us, it was a lot harder for US to wean her of it than her to wean herself off it. Good luck--it's not an easy thing to do. :hug99:

i did cold turkey with tony at 20 months :errr: it's scary and was hell for the first week but i had to do it.

crap, just realized gianna's 18 months :lol: guess i'll be doing this again! (although she only gets hers at night, he had his nearly all the time).

I'm starting to think about this with Gavin (19 months this weekend). :errr: We had it down to mainly nap and bedtime, but he got sick and it's back with a vengeance. He rarely has it out of his mouth now. (aside from when we go out and about) He's waking up at night because he loses it and wants me to find it for him. :dead:

I'm guessing the "easiest" way is to just completely get rid of them and struggle through the whining for it for a bit? :errr:

I guess the next step is just throwing them away. I'm wanting to wean him before our cruise in May. I just have to buck down and just get rid of them.

It sounds like a few of us may be needing a support group in the near future. :lol:

I did Morgan's cold turkey at 14 months because of a rash they were causing on her face.

Raelyn is 14 months now and loves her pacifier. Not sure yet when we'll get rid of it.

I'd be glad to make this a support group...I'm getting sleepless nights from Sierra and her teething so what's one more thing of adding Aiden going cold turkey from no pacifiers...

Josiah was quite the addict too. He sort of weaned himself. I realized that when I put him to bed for the night or a nap, I'd just hand him his pacifier, he'd plop it in his mouth happily, and away we went. One night after DH had put him to bed, DH came to me, said, "Look what I have?" and pulled the paci. out of his pocket. He said Josiah never asked for it, and he never gave it. We expected him to wake in the middle of the night crying for it, but he didn't. We knew there was NO turning back. Next time he asked for the paci, which was probably the next day at nap time, I acted like I didn't know what he was talking about. Finally I said, "OOOOOOOOOHHHHHH.... THAT! No, honey, we don't use those any more." And he was fine. He asked a few times, each time I played it the same way and he quit asking.

A friend with a daughter just a few months older than Josiah had a similar self-weaning situation when her pacifier got a hole in it. Her daughter complained a bit, but mommy insisted we couldn't buy any more pacifiers. Eventually the girl got frustrated with the pacifier and decided she didn't want it any more. Done. Gone.

So... try poking a hole in it! :lol: Might just work for you.

Jackson is almost 29 months (that sounds weird to me!) and still has his for bedtime and naps, and I am terrified of getting rid of it. He is so laid back and easy going about everything but his binky, so I am afraid of the fight. My plan for now is to get rid of them after our vacation next week. I really want it for the plane ride b/c it is like a drug to him...calms him down instantly. I was thinking of having the binky fairy come and leave him a treat in exchange for his binky.

ooh...binky fairy...now that's a good idea. Susan, I'll give the broken binky a try.

Ben weaned himself at about 2 1/2. He was biting them more than sucking on them and we told him once he bit through the last one, we weren't buying any more. We followed through and it really didn't bother him. I thought for sure that he would be stealing Katie's (same type of pacifier), but he didn't. He'll tell us his are broken. Now (almost 9 months later) he'll put Katie's pacifiers in his mouth, but you can tell he's doing it to be funny. :lol:

Jackson is almost 29 months (that sounds weird to me!) and still has his for bedtime and naps, and I am terrified of getting rid of it. He is so laid back and easy going about everything but his binky, so I am afraid of the fight. My plan for now is to get rid of them after our vacation next week. I really want it for the plane ride b/c it is like a drug to him...calms him down instantly. I was thinking of having the binky fairy come and leave him a treat in exchange for his binky.

Yep, the binky fairy came for both of my kids on their 2nd birthday. For several days/weeks leading up to their birthday, we told them that when they turned 2, the binky fairy comes to take the binkies and give them to new little babies that need them. We explained that they leave them out on the windowsill, and the binky fairy will take them and leave them a toy. Worked well for both kids- way better than I ever expected, since both were quite addicted during naps/bedtime.

Like Susan, if they asked for it, we'd just say, "The binky? Silly boy/girl, don't you remember? The binky fairy came and gave your binkies to the new babies! Remember the cool toy she left you?" And that would be that. My son had one crying jag the day after we took it away, but after that, never asked for it again. :)

It's not usually as hard as you think it will be, especially if you go in with the determination to NEVER give it back once it's gone!

Yep, the binky fairy came for both of my kids on their 2nd birthday. For several days/weeks leading up to their birthday, we told them that when they turned 2, the binky fairy comes to take the binkies and give them to new little babies that need them. We explained that they leave them out on the windowsill, and the binky fairy will take them and leave them a toy. Worked well for both kids- way better than I ever expected, since both were quite addicted during naps/bedtime.

Like Susan, if they asked for it, we'd just say, "The binky? Silly boy/girl, don't you remember? The binky fairy came and gave your binkies to the new babies! Remember the cool toy she left you?" And that would be that. My son had one crying jag the day after we took it away, but after that, never asked for it again. :)

It's not usually as hard as you think it will be, especially if you go in with the determination to NEVER give it back once it's gone!

I should have credited you, but I got the idea from your journal! I think the binky fairy is going to visit our house as soon as we get back from vacation. I want the binky to be a distant memory by the time the baby is born in July...

Don't give me credit, I stole it from somewhere else! :lol:

The biggest thing is to NOT give in...once you decide you're doing it, you have to follow through.

We cut Emily's when she was 13 months old, on Shel's advice. She only took them in her crib and car seat, and we went through and cut the tips off all of them. The first night (or next morning really, since she would suck on them when she first woke up) was rough, but I told her they had worn out and we couldn't get more. She threw them on the floor, and that was pretty much the end of it!

Molly never took a paci, she sucks her thumb...or did until Sunday morning. She broke her left arm, and hasn't been able to get her left thumb into her mouth since. :blue: We've seen her experimenting with her right thumb, but so far it isn't taking. I wasn't sure how to break her of the thumb sucking habit, but this certainly wasn't what I had envisioned!!!

We tried the passy fairy and Lauren did not buy into AT ALL. She just looked at me like, "screw that stupid passy fairy and the gift she is promising me, I want the passy." :) Lauren will be three in a couple weeks and I took hers sometime in January. I cut the tips off of 4 or 5 of them and just laid them around. One in her playroom, a couple in the living room, some in the kitchen.. and I just let her find them. She would find them and laugh and say they broke and then throw them in the trash. From then on out when she would ask for one I reminded her that they broke. It was rough the first week, but not as rough as I anticipated. She had trouble getting herself to sleep and when she would wake up in the middle of the night, she had trouble getting back to sleep. But literally a week later, she had adjusted. She will still occassionally ask for one and I will remind her they broke and she just accepts it.
I agree with Amy in that once you do it, do it. I did it two timed before I finally stuck with it the third time. That being said, looking back I was kinda pissed that I tried to take it the first two times. IMO, there was no reason I should have taken it anytime before around age 3. With my next child, I won't even consider it until then.

We just took Anna's away a few weeks after she turned 3. She used it for sleeping and long car rides (an hour or longer) only, but was starting to ask for it during the day. It got to be a huge struggle and we butted heads about it constantly.

We just picked a day to be "bye-bye soother day" and marked it on the calendar. We chose a Friday so that the bad sleep would be over the weekend. I took her on Monday and let her pick out a new toy. I was thinking a stuffed animal that she could sleep with, but she wanted a plastic Dora ball, so she got the ball, and I found a Winnie the Pooh pillow too. We put them up on the china cabinet and talked about how when we said good-bye to soother, she could have her presents.

We counted down the sleeps to bye-bye soother day, and talked about it a lot. She decided that she wanted to give it to her new cousin. On Friday morning, she wanted to say bye-bye first thing in the morning, and she wanted us all to hold hands while we put it in a wipes box. It was almost like a funeral. :lol: I put the box up on the china cabinet and gave her her toys. All was good...

... until she threw the toys on the floor at 8:15 a.m. and asked for her soother back. :lol: Honestly, it was a bad day. She had about 3 big meltdowns about it, and it was really pathetic when she was begging me for "just one last suck... just one last suck on my soother." :blue: Then she asked just to look at it.

She didn't nap that day, but did fall asleep on the chair for a while when watching TV. That bedtime was rough, and my husband ended up going in to sleep with her half way through the night.

The next day, she was pretty much fine. She still asks for it sometimes, but mostly to be silly.

Aubrey will be 3 next month and loves her binky. Only two of them survived our move this week and she is holding onto them for dear life. They are her one comfort.

I don't think I have the heart to take them away. I just can't reconcile in my mind the fact that Addison who is 4 still sucks her thumb at night and I've made no effort to stop that. So maybe I just won't. Aubrey keeps them in her bed.

I'm thinking about having the binky fairy come for her birthday though.

I introduced the binky fairy concept to Jackson last night. WhenI was getting him ready for bed, I told him that he is getting to be such a big boy, that when he turns 2.5 (in April) the binky fairy is going to come and take his binkies to all the babies in the world that need them. I told him that he'll leave binky on the windowsill and the fairy will come take binky and leave him a present...

The look of horror on his face was the funniest thing. At the end of my whole talk, I said..."doesn't that sound cool?" He looked me straight in the face and said "ahhh....NO!"

So I am not sure how this is going to go over. I have a little more than a month to talk it up.

This morning when I took his binky away he did tell me that "Jackson be big boy soon, babies need binky..." so maybe he will get it. :dunno:

I've tried mentioning it...but atleast Aiden's keeping his pahpies to bed only now. He's started taking his Baby to bed with him...my old cabbage patch kid...but he's just not ready to give them up yet...and everyone else is pushing me to make him give them up.

Aidan was a severe pacifier addict. He'd go to bed with at least 5 of them.

Anyway, Aidan looked at me with sheer horror when I mentioned a binky fairy. He vomited b/c he was so upset the two times I cut the tips off of his binkies. I decided I was going to do it point blank, no playing around. Two weeks after his 2nd birthday, I told him he was too big of a boy to be using a binky. And threw them away. We had a tough time for about 2 days. He actually SLEPT BETTER, because he wouldnt wake up when the damn things fell out and he couldnt find them. After that initial week, it was like he never had one. He must have found one in the car a month later and acted like he was going to put it in his mouth and then giggled and said, "nooo. I'm a big boy." :lol:

We had Santa and Rudolph come and take away Kaitlyns soothers. She was 2yrs old at the time - and we told her that they needed to come get them to give them to other little babies who don't have soothers and REALLY need them.


She understood it right away - and never asked for them again. By the time she was 2, she was only using them at night or when we travelled long distances in the van.