I'm speaking only about thank you cards for gifts at a party. I'm curious to hear some opinions on the subject.

I heard a discussion recently about thank you cards. Someone said "You agree not to send one to me and I'll agree not to send one to you". I know it can take some work to send them out, depending on schedules and how many kids you have, etc.

Do you appreciate thank you cards for gifts or are they something that you could care less about?

Do you always send thank you cards for birthday party gifts? (if not, explain)

Do you only send them to people who gave gifts but were not at the party and therefore were not thanked in person?

Would you agree within your circle of friends to stop sending thank you cards?

Do you think this kind of thing is outdated or appreciated?

Add anything else you want to the list.

Well, I think I answered most of these questions while we were actually talking about it, but I'll reply anyway. :)

Do you appreciate thank you cards for gifts or are they something that you could care less about?
If we're only talking about birthday party thank you notes, then it doesn't bother me at all not to get one. I don't even give it a second thought. But if I do get one from a birthday party gift, I do think it's nice and I appreciate it.

Do you always send thank you cards for birthday party gifts? (if not, explain)
Since the kids have been born, I have been sending them out after the parties. At least I think I have been for every one. I can't remember all that. ;) It's my intention to send them out after parties.

Do you only send them to people who gave gifts but were not at the party and therefore were not thanked in person?
For birthday parties, I send them to everyone... even my parents, whom I know don't expect one.

Would you agree within your circle of friends to stop sending thank you cards?
I wouldn't be against an agreement like that, but I have to say that it would still be hard for me not to send them one if I'm sending everyone one.

Do you think this kind of thing is outdated or appreciated?
I don't think it's outdated, but Brad thinks that it's ridiculous to send them out after parties to people who were thanked at the party. So I know some people think it's unnecessary. I still like to do it. Now, how long it takes me to get them out is something else entirely. :blush1:

We actually had a long thread about this a few months back, but I couldn't find it. :dunno: Anyhoo...

Do you appreciate thank you cards for gifts or are they something that you could care less about? I appreciate and expect them

Do you always send thank you cards for birthday party gifts? (if not, explain) Yes - once in a while I'll skip someone...like one of Joe's cousins never has their kids send us a TY note, and so I've often skipped sending one to them

Do you only send them to people who gave gifts but were not at the party and therefore were not thanked in person? No, I send them even if I thank them in person

Would you agree within your circle of friends to stop sending thank you cards? Sure thing - although once in a while, I might send one anyway for something really special

Do you think this kind of thing is outdated or appreciated? I really think people have very different opinions. And you don't always know who thinks it's outdated v. appreciated. I send them because it's what I was taught and it makes me feel better for officially thanking someone.