Watching my wife suffer....

[Greg]

Hello everyone,

I am so blessed to have found this website and my heart and prayers goes out to anyone and everyone who has dealt with miscarriage.

My wife and I pastor a small church in Ohio and we just found out yesterday that our second preg. (last was four years ago w/ miscarriage) is in extreme trouble. No h/b detected and the prog. levels are sub 6. We should be 9 weeks on Thur. Still praying and believing for a miracle tomorrow. Watching my beautiful wife wish she were dead and sobbing and sobbing is breaking my heart. This is the worst kind of pain and seemingly no answers from God or anyone. My heart goes out to everyone who is suffering from this awful problem.
Greg

[Clare]

I'm sorry to hear that there may not be hope for this pregnancy, Greg. Many prayers and positive thoughts going out for you and your wife tomorrow.

[Greg]

thanks Clare that means a lot and we will keep trying and believing for a miracle. My wife wants to start a ministry that deals with husbands and wives who are going through miscarrige. It is so common, yet it's treated like a dirty secret. It is one of the toughest things that a marriage can ever go through!

[JolieC]

Greg, I am so sorry to hear that this pregnancy might not be viable. Miscarriage is a sad, terrible tragic thing to happen. I wish that there was something to say that would make you feel better, but I know that sometimes you just have to live it. :hug99:

My husband and I lost our firstborn nearly 2 years ago when he died during the birth at fullterm, and you're right infant loss (and I know it's not what the medical community call a fetus, but this is your baby after all) is a terrible *dirty secret*...we still encounter people who refuse to acknowledge we had a baby, or who offer platitudes which do nothing but infuriate you. To have gone through this once is awful, to be on the brink of it a second time makes my heart ache for you. I'm so sorry for you both. It's a rotten horrible thing that happens, and there's no way around that.
Having written all this, I will keep you and your wife in my prayers - a miracle is never out of the question.

[marcy]

Greg, prayers for you and your wife.

[Suzi]

Greg, I know all too well the pain you and your wife are suffering. I am so sorry - my prayers are with you.

[MrsPeacefrog]

I am so sorry you are going through this, your wife is so lucky to have such an understanding husband who is suffering along side her!

:hug99: I hope that your prayers are answered very soon.

[Joan]

Welcome Greg, I will pray for you and your wife. I think it is a great idea to start a support group to minister to couples/women who have had miscarriages. So many people don't get it (I was one of them, at 19, I couldn't understand why my sister was still crying a month after she miscarried). Then I grew up and know and understand the pain. Good luck to you and your wife.

[Theresa]

I'll be praying for you and your wife. It's so hard when God just doesn't make sense. :hug99:

[Gerri]

:sadhug: I'm so sorry you and your wife are going through this heartbreak for a second time. :sadhug: My thoughts and prayers are with you both. :sadhug:

You have found a good place to find support and friendship, welcome to OUAL. :bighug:

[Tab]

I will be praying for you and your wife . Miracles do happen and in your case I really hope things pull thru for you guys and this could be your miracle baby . :bighug:

[Stacy]

:justahug: I will be :pray:ing that our God, a God of miracles, will touch you and your wife.

Starting a ministry will not only bless others but you as well.

[Greg]

Thanks all,
I'll let all of our new friends know what our test results are today. We did decide that before having a DNC that we would do one last ultrasound just in case. It's so hard to see me wife still throwin up this morning and crying at the same time. Wow, hardest thing ever. Thank you friends and may all your dreams and hopes come true.
Greg

[Stacy]

:bighug: I am praying as I type. I pray that God will give you a sense of peace whatever the outcome.

I know it's devestating to lose a baby.
You and your wife are not alone in this.

[MamaGoofy]

Greg :hug99: My heart aches for you and your wife. I pray that God answers your prayers and gives you a miracle. I pray that you and your wife find peace with what God hands you. :pray:

[Lynn]

Greg, I am so sorry to hear this. It is always sad and painful to lose a child, whether it's your first or fifth.
I think it is a wonderful that you want to start a ministry to help and to guide others who are going through similar circumstances. I can imagine that it would help you as well.

Lastly, the husbands always seem to take a back seat and not get any recognition (for lack of a better term) for their pain too. We know you're suffering as well, and to watch your wife go through this must be very difficult. I hope you and your wife can find peace and that God will bring you a miracle!

[Ana975]

I'm so sorry you are going through this! I also know the pain your wife is going through but she is very fortunate to have you there supporting her 100%. My prayes are with you.

[JennyB]

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Please keep us updated. There is a wonderful support network here for you and your wife. I think we do a pretty good job of helping each other out through the lowest of lows and the highest of highs. (I know this was true for me.)

[Kaybee711]

Prayers for a miracle today. :pray:

[Dennis]

Greg, I'm so sorry. Our thoughts are with you.

Dennis

[Mellissa]

So sorry that you and your wife are going through this, I can't even imagine the pain you both must feel. Prayers for a miracle today. :hug99:

[Greg]

Hey guys,
Our HcG number went down but the progesterone doubled???? We are scheduling one more u/s in the morning and then we will make a decision based on what we find out. Here's to everyone who's hoping, wishing and praying.
God Bless you all
Greg

[HollyNSC]

:hug99: Greg I am praying for you and your wife :hug99:

[JolieC]

Greg, I have no idea what that means, :hug99:but am keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.

[Mary DK]

Prayers being said for you and your wife in these trying times :pray:
Not sure what those result mean but I hope they mean good news :hug99:

[Gerri]

:pray: Good luck today at your ultrasound...we're thinking of you :pray:

[Stacy]

:pray:ing for you.

[stass]

I am sorry you are going through this. I had three miscarriages between my sons it is hard. Good luck!:hug99:

[MamaGoofy]

You are both in my :pray: I hope the results mean that you are receiving a miracle. :hug99:

[Greg]

Thanks guys (or gals) ha ha
We were in bed this morning and my wife rolled over and crying said "someone is praying for me right now, I can feel peace and strength" It is so nice to think that at 8:03 am EST that it could have been someone that we've never met who is praying against all odds. Something is going to happen today we just know it. Thanks again friends and may God take blessings from my wife and I and give it to someone out there who is more deserving. Maybe one of you fine folks.
God Bless,
Greg

[Stacy]

What a sweet post.

[JennyB]

:justahug:

[Tab]

:justahug: , That was very sweet Greg !!!! You and your wife are still in my prayers :justahug:

[Suzi]

Greg, still praying for you and your wife. :pray:

[JolieC]

:hug99:

[Greg]

Hey guys,
We saw no h/b on the monitor and decided to have the D&C. My wife came through it find and we are at home now picking up the pieces. Thanks all for your prayers and support.
Greg

[Tab]

I'm so sorry Greg !!!! :bighug:

[Stacy]

I am so sorry for your loss.

I will keep praying for you and your wife.

[JolieC]

:hug99:I'm so sorry Greg. You and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Clare]

I'm very sorry for your loss, Greg :hug99:

[Billy]

I am so so sorry for your loss :hug99:

[Bridget]

Greg, I am so sorrry. Truly. Hang in there and give your wife a big hug. Even though we are strangers, something like this makes none of that matter.

:justahug:

Take care and keep us posted on how you and your wife are doing if you feel up to it sometime.

[Theresa]

:sadhug:

[Mellissa]

So sorry Greg :hug99:

[Dennis]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Kaybee711]

I am so sorry. :(

[Gerri]

:sadhug: I'm so sorry for you both :sadhug:

[HollyNSC]

Im sorry :hug99:

[MrsPeacefrog]

:hug99: I am truly sorry for your loss and I hope both of you find the strength to continue on.

[Greg]

thanks guys,
not much sleep right now, but lots of love and prayers to help with that.
Greg and Crystal

[MamaGoofy]

Greg and Crystal: I know this is a terrible time for you both. I pray that God gives you the peace and comfort that you are both needing! :hug99: I know He will bring you through this and you will find another rainbow. :)

[Mary DK]

Oh, I'm so very sorry for your loss :sadhug:

[JennyB]

Greg and Crystal -

I am so sorry that the news wasn't better. It's such a horrible thing to go through. I will be praying for you.

[Lynn]

I'm sorry Greg. :hug99:

[Brookamy]

I am so sorry about your loss. :hug99:

[tuesdayswife]

So sorry for your loss.

[marcy]

Greg, I am sorry to hear of your loss.

[Dori]

I am so sorry to hear your news, Greg. OUAL is a wonderful support group for you and your wife. I don't how I would make it through my infertility and miscarriage without it. My prayers go out to both of you.

[Bridget]

Hello Greg. Just saw you online and wanted to check in and see how things are going. Thinking of you and your wife.

[Stacy]

I hope you both were able to go to church today and find peace and comfort with others.

[Greg]

Hey folks,

church was beneficial and healing (as it should be). We are working one day at a time to put the pieces back together. We had the tissue sent away for analysis at Children's Hospital in Columbus. My wife's doc thinks that she may have a blood clotting problems called "factor 5". Anyone ever experienced this diagnosis?
Thanks for the support and love.
Greg and Crystal

[JennyB]

I have never even heard of such a thing.

[corjack]

I am so sorry for your loss. This is truly the hardest thing a woman can ever go through. Only those who have been there can understand. I am so glad your going to be getting testing done and that a answer may prevent a future situation like this one.

[MrsPeacefrog]

I have heard of Factor 5, its a form of Hemophilia.... from what I know it can cause a higher chance of miscarriage but it doesnt' completely stop someone from being able to carry a pregnancy to term. although it can increase the risk of hemoraging after giving birth..., I hope the dr's will be able to give you some answers soon :hug99:

[LindzL04]

my friend had factor V during her pregnancy. the way i understand it, factor V is a clotting factor in your blood. if you have this problem your blood is unable to clot properly. she didnt know she had it at first and got really sick and they had to rush her to the hospital. then she found out she had it and it was considered a high risk pregnancy. she was only 17 and her step mom, a nurse, wanted her to have an abortion. she refused and continued the pregnancy. she had to give herself shots in the thigh and stomach all the time as a treatment for this, but she ended up giving birth to a perfect baby boy. so really it does not mean you cannot have a healthy baby if you get treatment. good luck to you and i am sorry for your loss. you and your wife are in my prayers.

[Suzi]

Greg, I am not sure if you are still posting here but I just saw this and had to respond. I do not have factor V Leiden but I have a very similar diagnosis of APS (antiphospholipid syndrome). It is easily treated with shots and once diagnosed, you can have a perfectly healthy pregnancy. I wish you luck!