maddiemore
December 16th, 2005, 12:30 AM
I just don't know what else to do, I have been with the most wonderful man any woman would want for the last 9 yrs. of my life. His exwife left him for another woman, yes, another woman. They had a biutiful daughter together. When I met him his daughter was 4 yrs. old. His ex lived with the other woman and had custody of there daughter. The ex's girlfriend has three children of her own. She also left her husband for his ex. He would pick his daughter up every other weekend and every wednsday,and every other possible time extra he could get with her. He lived in an apartment and his ex would come drop her daughter off and not get her for days. He wouldn't have a way to go get food for them because she took the car in there devorce, would say she will drop it off for him to go and wouldn't show up. His ex would not ever take her to the doctore or the dentist. She would always tell him she couldn't take her so he would always come pick her up and take her. When we got together it was the same way, the other woman , me or he would allway have to take her. (Lets give names, daughter is Megan, Husband is Bill, Ex is Dana, and ex's girlfriend is Julie, I am Madalyn and my daughter is Renee') We lived in Tomball when we first moved in together and there were at least 4 times out of 2 yrs that we either had to go pick Megan up or that she would just drop her off at the apartment because she and Julie were fighting. Sometimes the fight would be because Julie wouldn't treat Megan right. We then moved into a house in the wwodlands and I remember having to go again to get Megan from her moms, when we got there her mom was putting Megan in my lap in the front seat of the car and throwing all of her clothes and belongings in the back seat of the car and telling us to go with no explenation. Then like everyother time after a day or two all was ok and she would come pick Megan up. This is how life was then. Megan then began to tell big, Very big lies to her mom and julie when she would go home after a weekend. Things that would make a parent very concerned. With out talking to us Dana and Julie just believed everything she said. On the other hand Megan would come to us and tell us things as well. Finally we had to say something to only find out most were not true or only parts of a story.Thing became so bad at Julies house for Megan and even Dana admitted to Bill and I that Julie doesn't treat Megan right and the other kids over there are so mean to her and Dana. I watched Megan go from a sweet innocent 4 yr old to a monster. I descibed her when she was there as some one who could stab and just stand over you to watch you bleed to death. Her mom will tell you today when she is mad at Megan Her words" She is a lying little bitch and she betrays you.
We went for custody of Megan and won. This was such a horible ride. When the papers were served it was on a day Bill had Megan on a wed. and when he brought her home Julie met them at the door, not,Dana and said you need to come in we have something we need to tell Megan. Bill said no he will talk to Megan on his own (He did not feel this had anything to do Julie) He recieved a call from Megan sying she hated him that they told that he was taking her away from her mom forever.From that point on Life has been hell for me and my daughter Renee' and her daddy. Her mom would tell her and read all the papers from the courts including parts about her going to jail if she doesn't comply with orders. she said Megan at 10 had the right to know everything because this was about her. So Megan now thinks her mom is inocent and her dad is taking her away from her mom forever and now he is trying to throw her in jail. Again her mom is doing no wrong. Even a judge ordered her not talk to Megan at all about any of it and she still did. She didn't care how much she was hurting Megan.. Megan started her lies again told her dad and us just how much she hated us evertime she saw us. It was so bad I began to write every conversation we had on paper and made her read it and sign it so any time her mom wanted to know what realy happend she could see for her self.
Like I said we got custody of Megan and we all went to cousling and everything begant to get better after a long very hard year of working together. Megan with out influence against her mom, no matter how wrong and bad her mom may be we just would never talk bad about her. We figure Megan would one day see what kind of mom she really is and make up her owne mind. We have had custody since Nov. 2002 she is now 13. Her mom fought us for all the time she could get with her, but she hasn't picked Megan up for a weekend or but only about 11/2 hrs. 3 times on a wed in 2 years.Hears a big catcher she lives 5 min from us because we bought a home close to Megan so we could see her more.So she lives that close and still doesn't come get her. She feeds Megan full of excuses and makes her believe them. Her biggest excuse is she has to work I will drive by her work and she is not there she is at home with Julie. She lies to us and Megan all the time.We have written many, many letters begging her to spend some time with Megan and they don't work. Now her mom got a job that make her travel. We just recently found out that she is home on the weekend most of the time.She will call her every once in while. She also had Megan believing that her dad was making her pay child suport, taking all of her money, so now she can't aford to feed her self. She can only eat roman noodles. Megan was so mad at her dad. She thought he was doing something bad to her mom. This story could go on forever because I havent even touched the serface yet. I just found out that Megan is starting all of her lying and telling her mom parts of storie's about things that go on in our home. She lied to the principle today because she got introuble and he was going to call home and said her dad was in the hospital. When she brought the note home Bill was going to call the priciple and she told she lied because she was scared that I may answer the phone.. She thought I would yell at her.She used to tell her mom she was scared of me and her dad and then come to our place and say she was scared of her mom and Julie. We also recieved a letter from Dana today stating something that was going on with some one in our family and Megan again fails to tell the whole story.Only what sounded bad and not the out come. Also in the letter she stated she was scared of her dad to her mom. He is the most patient kindest person you would ever know, as a matter a fact we have gotten into arguments over her not being punished for what she does wrong. She is so used to being rude that even though she may not mean to be she is when she talks to us. She tells everything she hears no matter how it may hurt someones feeling. I just don't think I can go thrue this again. I don't know how. I will never find someone as good as Bill again. Renee' looks at him as her dad now, he is pretty much all she know. We lost her daddy and 7 year old brother in trailor house fire when she was 6. She is now 16 years old. I have stood by Bill and suported him thrue all the bad and reasured him it will all get better in time, when really I was so tore up over the person she was. after we got custody it was so bad I almost had to leave for my daught and my sanity. I love her so much and know she is very hurt but how do get thrue this again? I'm not sure I can make my daughter watch this again. I am not sure I can sit back and take it any more. We have spent so much money fighting for her and time. No matter what happens I feel I should leave before she would go back to her moms, she has never taken care of her before and she doesn't now. She needs her dad.Like I said the story sounds like a walk in the park compared to everything I could tell you.I need to know how to beat this little girl at her owne game and her respect me afterwards,( She is very munipulative) or I will have no choice but to leave and that will kill all but Megan.I need any advice I can get.HELP
We went for custody of Megan and won. This was such a horible ride. When the papers were served it was on a day Bill had Megan on a wed. and when he brought her home Julie met them at the door, not,Dana and said you need to come in we have something we need to tell Megan. Bill said no he will talk to Megan on his own (He did not feel this had anything to do Julie) He recieved a call from Megan sying she hated him that they told that he was taking her away from her mom forever.From that point on Life has been hell for me and my daughter Renee' and her daddy. Her mom would tell her and read all the papers from the courts including parts about her going to jail if she doesn't comply with orders. she said Megan at 10 had the right to know everything because this was about her. So Megan now thinks her mom is inocent and her dad is taking her away from her mom forever and now he is trying to throw her in jail. Again her mom is doing no wrong. Even a judge ordered her not talk to Megan at all about any of it and she still did. She didn't care how much she was hurting Megan.. Megan started her lies again told her dad and us just how much she hated us evertime she saw us. It was so bad I began to write every conversation we had on paper and made her read it and sign it so any time her mom wanted to know what realy happend she could see for her self.
Like I said we got custody of Megan and we all went to cousling and everything begant to get better after a long very hard year of working together. Megan with out influence against her mom, no matter how wrong and bad her mom may be we just would never talk bad about her. We figure Megan would one day see what kind of mom she really is and make up her owne mind. We have had custody since Nov. 2002 she is now 13. Her mom fought us for all the time she could get with her, but she hasn't picked Megan up for a weekend or but only about 11/2 hrs. 3 times on a wed in 2 years.Hears a big catcher she lives 5 min from us because we bought a home close to Megan so we could see her more.So she lives that close and still doesn't come get her. She feeds Megan full of excuses and makes her believe them. Her biggest excuse is she has to work I will drive by her work and she is not there she is at home with Julie. She lies to us and Megan all the time.We have written many, many letters begging her to spend some time with Megan and they don't work. Now her mom got a job that make her travel. We just recently found out that she is home on the weekend most of the time.She will call her every once in while. She also had Megan believing that her dad was making her pay child suport, taking all of her money, so now she can't aford to feed her self. She can only eat roman noodles. Megan was so mad at her dad. She thought he was doing something bad to her mom. This story could go on forever because I havent even touched the serface yet. I just found out that Megan is starting all of her lying and telling her mom parts of storie's about things that go on in our home. She lied to the principle today because she got introuble and he was going to call home and said her dad was in the hospital. When she brought the note home Bill was going to call the priciple and she told she lied because she was scared that I may answer the phone.. She thought I would yell at her.She used to tell her mom she was scared of me and her dad and then come to our place and say she was scared of her mom and Julie. We also recieved a letter from Dana today stating something that was going on with some one in our family and Megan again fails to tell the whole story.Only what sounded bad and not the out come. Also in the letter she stated she was scared of her dad to her mom. He is the most patient kindest person you would ever know, as a matter a fact we have gotten into arguments over her not being punished for what she does wrong. She is so used to being rude that even though she may not mean to be she is when she talks to us. She tells everything she hears no matter how it may hurt someones feeling. I just don't think I can go thrue this again. I don't know how. I will never find someone as good as Bill again. Renee' looks at him as her dad now, he is pretty much all she know. We lost her daddy and 7 year old brother in trailor house fire when she was 6. She is now 16 years old. I have stood by Bill and suported him thrue all the bad and reasured him it will all get better in time, when really I was so tore up over the person she was. after we got custody it was so bad I almost had to leave for my daught and my sanity. I love her so much and know she is very hurt but how do get thrue this again? I'm not sure I can make my daughter watch this again. I am not sure I can sit back and take it any more. We have spent so much money fighting for her and time. No matter what happens I feel I should leave before she would go back to her moms, she has never taken care of her before and she doesn't now. She needs her dad.Like I said the story sounds like a walk in the park compared to everything I could tell you.I need to know how to beat this little girl at her owne game and her respect me afterwards,( She is very munipulative) or I will have no choice but to leave and that will kill all but Megan.I need any advice I can get.HELP