Would you allow this?

[Sherry]

Ok... short story....

My SD had pictures taken that are posted on the internet of her in VERY provocative positions etc...with her mothers permission and without our knowledge till I discoverd it. Anyone can access these pictures so we are HIGLY upset about this. What would you do? SS said we should be proud and happy that Quote" She is hot and sexy " BUT SHE IS ONLY 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Nadine]

WOW - that is hard to deal with...
Did you have a talk with her mother? I mean, as much as I'd expect a 16-yo to know that what she did is wrong.... I am wondering much more about what went on in her mom's head when she allowed it.
Sorry I don;t have any better advice.

[Girlo]

What does your DH have to say about it? It seems like he would be the one to talk to his ex about the pictures. :dunno: I can definitely see where you'd be concerned. The pictures are definitely provocative....but I've seen worse. :)
I think lots of teen girls like to see where that sort of thing will take them....as long as she knows not to get sucked in by people who want to take advantage of it and abuse it. :)

[Karri]

HELL NO. I would not allow it! My children can do what they want once they are 18, but until they are legal adults, HELL NO. That kind of thing just invites trouble. I would have your husband talk with her mother and your step-daughter.

[Sherry]

Well, DH and his EX are not allowed to "speak" and DH and his Daughter are not on speaking terms right now...

Court has orderd that any communication goes thru me and her hubby... (yes childish)
his ex, ( her mom ) was caught in adultry many times and has many photos etc of her when they were married that she sent to other men and had their daughter , the same one we are talking about now, take pics of her for other men while they were married etc... Needless to say, she is in no way Christian....so.. that is the type of individual we are working with here... NO MORALS

[gulp!]

Is there any court-appointed overseer for this girl? Does she go to a therapist? I think you need to enlist the help of some third party here- that is completely and utterly wrong to have provocative pics of a 16 yr. old on the Internet!!

[Nichole]

Yikes, considering the mom's past history, I'd be incredibly uncomfortable with those pictures of your stepdaughter. What a shame that communication is so bad between your DH and his daughter. :( Is there any course of action you can take with these pictures? I'm guessing if she's not on speaking terms with him, she's not going to listen to what he has to say about the pictures. :(

It seems to me (as an outsider) that the best thing for him to do would be to really work at repairing his relationship with his daughter to try to get her away from her mom's influence. I'm sorry! :hug99:

[Dennis]

Another "hell no!" here. Tell her mother (through her husband) that the pictures need to come down. And if they refuse, tell them you will pursue every legal avenue possible. You could use them to make a case for her being an unfit parent.

[Sherry]

TRUST me... we are going to court anyway over custody etc for the son that she "kicked out due to his dating ethnic preference" and we need to get his daughter too.....We are just waiting on the official papers with the court date... We need to add this to our case!

[Sherry]

regarding the relationship with the daughter.. As of Christmas last year (2004) she does not want to speak to her dad or me etc as she did not get what she wanted or felt she deserved for x-mas and until we learn to speak to her the way she wants she does not want to talk to her dad, or see her dad etc... ( and the mom is behind this too ) Her famous quote in our house from her was" We are your first born, and I dont understand why I cant have what I want, when I want it "

[Sherry]

Her Full name, age, and city are published, with one of these photos in a magazine my SS showed me and in this magazine there is tons of adds for lingere, sex toys, etc... HOW INNAPROPRIATE IS THAT?????!!!!!!!!!!

[Girlo]

Holy crap, Sherry!! :eek: I guess I didn't pay enough attention the first time when I looked at those pics (I just had a glance). I assumed they were from the photographer....you know, how some places will put the proofs online so you can share them. If they're up there in the context you described, it's like an ad for her services!! NOT acceptable at 16. :nono:

I'd also forgotten the history with your step-kids and their bio mom. :( I hope you can get full custody of them both SOON and have a little sense seep into your SD's brain before she goes out into the big world. :hug99:

[kim]

i actually believe that this may be illegal as well and fall into the child pornography category. i would contact social services asap!

[Sherry]

THanks everyone!! I agree.. I am going to do that ( with DH"s permission etc )

[Sherry]

Ok the magazine has one photo of her standing against a wall and another pic of her in a fashion show ( old navy , gap, that sort of thing) but the magazines website ( which is posted on the front cover ) has 2 links on the front page to "view the models photos" and that is where you just click on her face and get to her pics etc

[Bev]

I agree with Kim. Perhaps the magazine will get in trouble for having links to child pornography if the definition fits. Or perhaps they will take the link off if you suggest you are pursuing that avenue. I hope if you get custody of her she stops being a spoiled brat. :hug99:

[Sherry]

The link is actually the "magazines name.com" My only thought is if the mom ok'd it, then what can we do?

[Bev]

Can you prints the pics off to take to Court in case she takes them off before the Court date?

[Tab]

My thoughts exactly !!!!! Thats just ridiculious !!!! I would definatly say something to her .

Another "hell no!" here. Tell her mother (through her husband) that the pictures need to come down. And if they refuse, tell them you will pursue every legal avenue possible. You could use them to make a case for her being an unfit parent.

[Sherry]

I will be copying the web pages and the photos and burning it to 2 cd's ( one is for backup. ) and when we have our court date, I will be bringing this up.

[Stacy]

:eek: Yikes!!

This woman sounds like a piece of work to allow her daughter to do something like this.
I really hope and pray that you get custody of both kids.
Sorry that you have to deal with such crap.

[Nadine]

:eek: I can't believe what kind of a woman her mom is.
I hope you will get custody ASAP.

If she refuses to talk with her dad - where does she live right now? With her mom?

I agree with the others - I am pretty sure this is illegal and I hope if nothing else, it will help you in the court.

[Sherry]

Yes she lives with her mom and step dad...

DH is going to call the courts tomorrow if we dont get anything today in the mail