A friend of mine is getting married in Cabo. I wasn't invited to a shower (nor did I expect to be) but wanted to send her a gift, so another friend (who was invited to a shower) and I went in on a gift from Pottery Barn. We sent her a large divided tray and a pair of S&P. The tray was 50% off, so total we spent $80 - $40 each.

Afterward, I received an invitation to her reception (I got the invite on the same day she got her gift so it wasn't a "guilt" invite). She's someone I'd call a friend, but I hadn't expected to be invited and that kind of impacted how much I spent.

Should I buy her another gift? Normally I'd spend more like $75-100. If I had known I would have spent the whole $100 at one time and gotten something nicer... Not that I can't get something for $60 but these are adults with grown children, and their registry has a lot of furniture and stuff on it I'm not going to buy. I'm left with stuff like candles, and I hate to buy just candles...

This is someone with whom I am friendly (she also happens to be our realtor) - we used to work together on some charitable functions - but we don't spend a lot of time together.

I hope this doesn't sound like I'm trying to be cheap!!! What are your thoughts? I know the amount people spend on weddings varies regionally... but just need an opinion on my situation.

I would get something very small and bring that and a card.

I would get her something, but within your original budget

Something small.

I would get them a gift card to the places that they want furniture from (Stay within your budget) and a card!

Jayne

I agree with Jayne - get a GC from where they registered.

Ok, gotta say, I love ya Bridget! You are SO me in these situations. I would feel the same way. I thing buying her a smaller gift is fine. I have a thing for getting something more unique from a boutique or something exotic. Not necessarily expensive, but something that they wouldn't normally get.

So if they want candles, I'd figure out what scent, what style they seem to like in their registry and get something a little more interesting, but of the same style/idea/origin.


Oh my, this is a long answer to a simple question.

Buy a candle or two that they are registered for and add a candle holder if you can do that within your budget.

Or get them a gc and a card.

I'm with the majority, get something small or a gc for wherever they're registered :)