Party etiquette

[Hannabanana]

I was listening to the radio the other day and they were talking about etiquette on when bringing wine to a party.

Here's the scenario: you are invited to a party & you brought a nice bottle of store bought wine to your host. He/she says thank you, puts it away and pulls out some homemade brew and serves it to you.

Did you bring the wine as a gift for your host expecting them to put it away for their own enjoyment at a later time or did you bring it for your own pleasure?

[MrsPeacefrog]

Well I generally would bring the bottle of wine as to ease the pressure on the host in serving alcohol as it can get expensive, so I would presume they would open it up for everyone to have at the dinner table.

But in the end its a gift to them and they use it the way they want to use it (although I would be a little annoyed I would accept it)

[~Deborah~]

My parents friends do this. You take good wine to their house and they serve :puke: homemade stuff.

Just ignorant I say.

[Mary]

When we have had people over for dinner, sometimes they have brought us wine. We don't drink, so if they would like some, they can have it. If not, we use it for cooking, or for when other people come over that would like some. Although we offer them the wine they brought, we would also offer other drinks.

Mary

[LISA]

It would be nice if they did serve it but since I don't really drink wine I don't care either way if it gets used asap or put away for another time.. the best was my now ex friend bringing me a bottle of wine ( cheap mateuse (sp?) :lol: and when I never opened it she ended up leaving with it :jawdrop:

[Kate]

The only time this happens to me is when we go to my parent's friend's home for a Christmas open house. They already have a fully stocked bar and I don't expect the wine to be opened for them.

Other than that, the bottle is usually always opened during the visit....

[pam]

I don't expect my host to open wine if I have brought it as a gift. Maybe what I brought doesn't "go" with the meal or they just had something else they were planning to serve.

[m'honey]

I'd be surprised if the host didn't open the wine but I wouldn't take offense. And if I were ever able to bring a REALLY special bottle as a gift, then I'd hope they save it for a special occasion... did that make sense?

Whenever I've had people over and they've brought wine, I always open it (even if I know it's not really good wine IMO, maybe that's what my guest likes?) and serve it with whatever course it'll be suitable for.

[Michelear]

i don't expect them to open it. If I bring it as a gift then it's for them to do as they want. If they ask me to bring it then I'd expect them to open it.
People have brought us wine and we don't always serve it. Usually we have enough and we take care to get wine that complements the meal. (We don't know what to choose, but the people at the store are a great help!). Does that make me sound like a wine snob? I'm not! a gift hoarder? perhaps! Doesn't everyone bring wine when they are invited to dinner?

[Goo]

My husband works in the wine business so we often bring a bottle (or two or three) when we go to a party. We would never expect the guest to open it up while we're there.. . the only exception would be if we brought an expensive bottle of champagne specifically to celebrate something for someone and it wasn't opened. But when we bring wine, we figure it will just be drunk. . . . whenever. . .. not necessarily while we're there. Usually with the lushes I hang out with, everything is drunk by the end of a party! :dancingpi

[Melissa]

The only time that I would expect a bottle of wine that I brought to be opened and consumed right there is if I had asked what the host was serving and said, "oh I'll bring some wine to have with that." Then I bought it to match the meal. Otherwise, in my group of friends the lushes we are, a wine would probably already been pared with what they had planned for dinner. I don't think it is rude at all to not open the wine then and there.

[Nichole]

I don't expect it to be opened, either. I've been in situations where it has and where it hasn't. I see it as a gift for the host/ess, and they can decide whether or not they wish to share it right away or enjoy it later.

[Bridget]

I don't worry about what the hosts do with my wine, but when I have guests over I do try to open it unless ample wine has already been opened (and we don't need more). Sometimes this happens (or happened back in the day) when we have (had :silly: ) Christmas parties. I've had people thought circumvent our already opened wine (probably $15-25 per bottle, but not super expensive stuff) and open theirs specifically, as if ours had a disease. :doh:

[Karri]

I dont expect my host/ess to open the wine that I bring, unless they had specifically asked me to bring a wine for dinner. Normally, I just bring it as a gift for the host/ess.

[Trish]

I dont expect my host/ess to open the wine that I bring, unless they had specifically asked me to bring a wine for dinner. Normally, I just bring it as a gift for the host/ess.Ditto :nod:

[Hannabanana]

People were phoning into the radio station saying that they were angry that their wine wasn't opened and that they were served a home made brew.
:shrug:
Unless it's really crappy homemade stuff, I have no problem with it either way :lol:

[Clare]

I don't mind as long as I'm offered some wine. If my bottle was stashed and then I was offered a soda, I would not be happy! :lol: Same goes for the homebrew. Who homebrews wine anyway? :scratch:

[Nichole]

Yuck! Homemade wine sounds nasty!! :errr:

[Mandi]

I don't expect my host to open wine if I have brought it as a gift. Maybe what I brought doesn't "go" with the meal or they just had something else they were planning to serve.

ITA. It wouldn't bother me at all if they didn't use it then.

[Bridget]

Mogen David anyone? :toast:

:lol: