Another question (since my shower is this weekend and no one has RSVP'd yet.
Which best fits you?

I always RSVP.
I only RSVP if I'm coming.
I only RSVP if I'm NOT coming.
I never RSVP.

I always RSVP. The only thing I hate more than people not RSVPing is someone RVSPing that they are coming and then not showing up.

Dennis

I always RSVP, unless the invitation says Regrets Only. Which frankly, I'd never do b/c people are bad about RSVPing so I think you'll never get an accurate count that way!

I always RSVP. I hate when people don't say they're coming or not and then you're left to hunt them down. It's not my job to be your mom and see if you're coming. You should be nice enough to just pick up the phone (or even email) to say you're coming or not.

I always RSVP because nobody else does!

ALWAYS - no options.

I ALWAYS RSVP, regardless. I get so pissed off when people cant freakin' RSVP. ITS NOT THAT HARD, PEOPLE! And I always give them a million options - they can call me, call DH, email me, email Chris, text message....just let me know! I dont care how!

I always RSVP. I just don't get it how pple think they don't need to if they are coming. Uh, hello....I do need a count!!!!

I just don't get it how pple think they don't need to if they are coming.

My cousin's wife thinks you only need to RSVP if you ARE coming. I don't know where she gets that idea.

I never RSVP because its just not done in my 'circle'. People dont plan parties expecting RSVPs either. It usually comes up in conversation. If I called someone and said Im RSVPing yes they would be like.. ok? :lol: Even on the little preprinted cards people scratch out RSVP. If they print their own they dont even include RSVP just the phone number in case they have a question.
I think in general things are way more laid back here.

Weddings for example: Its very common for friends of the bride and groom to bring other friends to the wedding without asking and no one seems to have a problem with it. Sit down dinners with an exact head count just dont happen. :lol:

ETA: Its very common to invite people by word of mouth vs regular invitations. Usually adults by 1 small pack of invitations so people (depends on what kind of party it is) can have a keepsake and 1 for the special person's keepsake.

Always RSVP, even if it's a noncommittal "I'll try to be there, but it depends on the kids that day" because I cannot predict how they will be or if they'll even be awake!! Obviously, for weddings, showers and formal events, it's either a firm Yes or No...the "I'll try to be there" is for kid oriented gatherings and parties.

Before I came along, DH said that he never ever RSVPd in his life, and just showed up at the weddings/receptions he was invited to. But his family just doesn't grasp the concept AT ALL...drives me freaking insane. Then again, they also show up 3-4 HOURS early for the girls' parties, but that's a whole 'nother issue! :lol:

Ditto. It's the polite thing to do -- whether "requested" or not, formal/informal event, etc. It's a must.

ALWAYS - no options.

I always do, b/c I get so mad when people don't RSVP. Honestly, if the invitation asks you to RSVP, how hard is it?

Always, I hate it when people don't RSVP.

Mary

I always RSVP. The only thing I hate more than people not RSVPing is someone RVSPing that they are coming and then not showing up.

Dennis

Halleliuah!!

Always.

Always. We still have several people who haven't RSVP'd for our party this weekend and it's irritating. I don't know what size of a cake to order or how many plates and cups, etc. to get! I just think it's rude not to RSVP.

I just think it's rude not to RSVP.
Even when people dont expect an RSVP?

I find it hard to believe that 95% polled say they always RSVP! Obviously none of you were invited to the baby shower I threw this weekend! :lol: I maybe had 8-10 people RSVP out of 40. Some people RSVP'd for other people, maybe like 3. If it says RSVP. I always RSVP. If it says regards only RSVP, I'll RSVP my regards. People just don't understand how hard it is to throw a party without knowing how many people will be in attendance.

I find it hard to believe that 95% polled say they always RSVP! Obviously none of you were invited to the baby shower I threw this weekend! :lol: I maybe had 8-10 people RSVP out of 40. Some people RSVP'd for other people, maybe like 3. If it says RSVP. I always RSVP. If it says regards only RSVP, I'll RSVP my regards. People just don't understand how hard it is to throw a party without knowing how many people will be in attendance.


I could lie and make it 100% :lol: Im just going to say that I dont believe Im the only person who doesnt RSVP. :biggrin:

I used to be really bad about RSVP'ing, but now that I've had to throw a few parties where I don't get RSVP's I'm really good about it. Really, is it that hard to pick up the phone and say, "Yes. I'm coming" or "No. I can't make it"?

Okay, something really funky happened and somehow I edited Alyssa's post instead of replied to it. Sorry for the confusion.

Alyssa, you should be able to edit this back to your original comments.

Dennis

LOL, I was going to respond to this last night while trying to RSVP for a PartyLite gathering at a friend's home tonight... I kept forgetting to call her to let her know and I realized last night that I still hadn't! Then my cordless phone's battery went dead as I was dialing her number and we couldn't find the "regular" phone to plug it in... sometimes my life is like an episode of The Three Stooges.

I used to be really good about RSVPing but in the last year I must admit that I have an extended form of preggo brain and constantly forget to call and let people know I'm coming (I usually remember to call the day before the event, tho). THANKFULLY, my crowd is super laid back and hardly anyone RSVPs, so I'm not the only one throwing people's headcount off. For tonight's thing, only two of us officially RSVPd even though there'll probably be 10-15 of us there. I'm about to co-sponsor a baby shower and I'm sure I'll be calling people a couple of days before to get RSVPs that way.

I have forgotten to RSVP before but if the invitation says RSVP, I try really hard to RSVP.

Harmonie - if the invitation didn't say RSVP, or if I knew an RSVP wasn't expected, then I wouldn't bother to RSVP. But if it's requested on the invitation, then I think it's rude not to do it.

I always RSVP because I hate when I'm giving something and no one RSVP's; that is a pet peeve of mine.

Harmonie - I'm not trying to say YOU are rude - I'm sorry. I guess things are WAY more laid back where you live than where we live. I should say that if the card says no RSVP necessary OR RSVP regrets only, then I don't always need to RSVP. But, if it's asked or expected, then I will. I just can't get over how you can plan a wedding and invite 200 guests and not know if 100 or 400 will show up? How do you plan food or places to sit?

Has anyone ever used Evite? I really like this because all the invited guests can see who is coming and who was invited. It's so easy to RSVP - you just click on yes or no! You don't have to make a call or anything.

Has anyone ever used Evite? I really like this because all the invited guests can see who is coming and who was invited. It's so easy to RSVP - you just click on yes or no! You don't have to make a call or anything.

I've gotten evites before (through Evite) and I liked them. Very easy!

BIL's crowd in DC all use Evite for their parties... and I suspect they copy one anothers' guest lists b/c we got invited to a party by one of his friends who doesn't even know us :rolleyes:, plus the party was in Baltimore, MD and we live in Portland, OR :duh:. DH and I had a great laugh over that one, his parents (and some of their friends, LOL!) got invited too, even though it was pretty much a kegger. We think they copied BIL's surprise 30th b-day party guest list. I think Evite can be useful depending on the crowd... since people have the opportunity to leave comments and some of them can get a little, ummm, crude.

A friend of mine is using WedQuarters.com for her wedding website, which allows guests to RSVP and offers some password features, etc that I found interesting but I'm not really totally sold on. And this is from me, the computer addict!

I love Evite.

I never realized how important RSVPing was until my wedding. Kegger parties don't need a RSVP. :lol: