Do you have a Bereavement Policy?

[Lady E]

And if so, do you have to bring in proof when you use it? What type of proof?

My BF just had an out-of-town funeral to attend (her FIL) and she is a teacher. They require for her to bring in the obituary or program from the service and expect to see the employee (or spouse) listed as one of the survivors. She said they asked her for it as soon as she got back and I just thought that was a little much being that I've always worked in corporate America.

We have bereavement here and I actually just used it to attend DH's grandma's funeral. We get 5 days for out of town, and 3 for local (for an immediate family member) and 1 day for another relative and a 1/2 day for a friend. BTW, they NEVER ask for any kind of proof whatsoever. I guess they think no one would lie about something like that which I appreciate but I guess the Board of Ed feels quite different.

[Silke]

I had to take bereavment pay at my previous job. The company put three days aside for that, but I didn't have to show any proof. Are there that many people that pretend somebody died in their family? :scratch:
Where I work now, I believe I can get up to 5 days.

[Karri]

I'm not a working parent anymore, but I used to be the head of an HR department, so I used to write the bereavement policies and such.
Anyway...at both places I worked, I had in the policy that we had the right to ask for proof. Because yes, there are some people who do abuse. One place I worked was a mfg. company and we staffed a lot of laotions. They have ginormous families, so yes, we required proof, because literally, every week there were at least 5 people gone on a given day at a funeral (no - I am not exaggerating).

I think that seeing the apouse/employee listed as a survivor is a bit too much. We simply asked b/c we wanted proof that the employee really was out grieving someone.

BTW - at both places, we only paid for immediate family (defined as parent, sibling, g-parent or the same 3 as in-laws). We gave off for other family, but it was unpaid. We had the same 5 day/3 day policy as you, though.

[Brooke]

We get 3 days for immediate family - mother, father, brother, sister, MIL, FIL, BIL, SIL, or a child. It DOES NOT include grandparents so I had to take vacation for my grandmother's funeral.

We don't have to show proof.

[Karri]

Are there that many people that pretend somebody died in their family? :scratch: .

OMG - believe it or not, there are. It is so sick and wrong, but I've caught three people who lied about a grandparent/uncle/aunt/cousin. And early on in my career, my boss caught one person in a HUGE lie about her MOM dying :jawdrop:

[Dennis]

We get 3 days, and your manager can allow you to take another 2 days if they choose. We're allowed to take it for a spouse, children, parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters, parents-in-law, or a relative or household member residing with us.

As far as I know, we don't need to submit any proof. I've never heard of that before.

Dennis

[Lady E]

Anyway...at both places I worked, I had in the policy that we had the right to ask for proof

So what types of proof did you ask for? You can get a program from anywhere. And if someone is devious enough to lie about it, they could really make one up themselves, right?

[Darcy]

Mine used to be 3, but they changed it to 4. We don't have to show proof. But here's my leave info:

Bereavement/Funeral Leave

Employees will be granted up to four (4) days off with pay upon the death of an immediately family member. Immediate family includes the employee's spouse, child, parent, sister, brother, grandparent, grandchild, stepparent, or current parent-in-law.

Employees will be granted one (1) day off with pay upon the death of the employee's aunt, uncle, niece, or nephew.

Bereavement/Funeral Leave must be taken within three days of the death of the family member.

PTO is not reduced when bereavement leave is granted based on the above language.

In all other instances, PTO is charged against an employee’s PTO in the usual manner.

Should the employee require additional time off for bereavement, the leave will be charged against remaining PTO, day for day. When PTO is not available, additional time away can be taken as unpaid, day for day.

[Jayne]

Being that I am now not working I don't have to worry about it but my DH gets 3 days for a death of a family member. It can include Aunts, Uncles, parents, grandparents, children, and current IL's. Thankfully this is helping us through this terrible ordeal we are going through right now. Dan is with his parents in Charleston and he lost his grandfather in the accident giving him 3 days and his Grandmother died this past Saturday giving him 3 more days PTO. Granted he is coming home for the services but the PTO is helping us get through this because our bills are starting to pile up.

Jayne

[Nocona]

We get 3 days for parents, siblings, children, grandparents and corresponding ILs. Anything over that is supposed to come from your personal time off (bank vacation days). No proof is required.

[Karri]

So what types of proof did you ask for? You can get a program from anywhere. And if someone is devious enough to lie about it, they could really make one up themselves, right?

the actual card thingey that people do up in memorium for the dead person and give out at the funeral (KWIM?). either that, or funeral homes have an actual fill-in-the-blank thing they will sign and send w/ the person saying they were there, greiving xxxxx.
If someone wants to go out of their way to go to a funeral home for someone's funeral they dont know and get a card from the date they said they were attending, well, then I guess so be it. But I'd think it would deter most. :lol: I know I'd opt for an easier excuse.

[JustJen]

My husband is in the military. We have to go through the American Red Cross for him to get emergency leave. There's a whole notification process.
We just had to do this with his Grandfather passing away. Jim had just flown to Arkansas for some military training and within 5 hours of him arriving his Grandfather passed. They paid for him to fly home immediately. He had 20 minutes to pack his things back up and fly back home.
Although the military isn't always very understanding when it comes to these things. We've had huge ordeals over the years when it comes to family emergencies.

[Joan]

I had to show proof when my MIL passed away a few months ago. I also got 3 days for imminent death (sp?). So I got a total of 6 days off. I just had to show the obituary.

[SUSAN203]

We get 5 days paid for an immediate family member (spouse/domestic partner, parent, parent-in-law, sibling, sibling-in-law, children, children-in-law...all including Steps and Fosters as well).

As far as I know, we need no proof. My MIL passed last week and I was off 4 days and personnel hasn't approached me for anything.