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sheila
January 26th, 2004, 10:31 AM
Here are ten ways that you can tell if you are a "crazy" mom or a "lazy" mom:


A "crazy" mom spends every night gathering together the things her children need for the next day. Then, she proceeds to pack their backpacks and lunches. A "lazy" mom spends some concentrated effort in training her kids to be responsible for their own things and to help pack the lunches. Then she will never have to pack a backpack again
A "crazy" mom does everyone's laundry. Then, she spends hours folding it and putting it away. A "lazy" mom teaches her children to do their own laundry. When her children are toddlers, she teaches them to fold washcloths. By the time they are 7 or 8 years old they are doing their own laundry and she never has to do it for them again.
A "crazy" mom cleans her whole house herself, every week. A "lazy" mom trains her kids to do the cleaning. If she has many children, I have five, she won't have to do any of the regular cleaning herself.
A "crazy" mom goes through her house, picking up glasses, dishes, shoes, dirty socks, and toys, in an effort to keep the house clean, in spite of her children. A "lazy" mom calls the child to pick up after him/herself. She will even resort to dishing out extra chores to kids who won't stop leaving messes around. Her goal is to never have to pick up after her children again.
The "crazy" mom encounters an over flowing trashcan and takes it out herself. The "lazy" mom has assigned one of her children to be in charge of trash and calls him/her in to take it out. She even has a child to take out the recycling.
A "crazy" mom cooks a wonderful dinner, sets the table, serves the meal, clears the table, and does the dishes herself. A "lazy" mom has a cook's helper, a table setter, and a server. She sits down and enjoys her meal. The dishwashers take care of the cleaning and the washing. Who are these helpers, you may ask. Why, her children and her husband, of course. She took the time to train the children to do these chores and then assigned the jobs to them.
A "crazy" mom drives her children to Sports, lessons, meetings, and more. A "lazy" mom arranges her life to stay home as much as possible. She limits her children's outside activities to one, or at most two, outings a week. She finds that she and the kids are happier at home and many special projects get finished.
A "crazy" mom often feels taken for granted and may begin to resent her family's dependence on her. A "lazy" mom is free to do little things for her kids, out of love, and to honor them. Things she used to feel she had to do, now become thoughtful favors for the ones she loves.
A "crazy" mom may find her children are not equipped to face adult responsibilities when they leave the nest. A "lazy" mom can rest in confidence that she helped build maturity in her children and gave them the skills they needed to build strong families of their own.
The "crazy" mom loves her kids and is just doing what she thinks she should. I hope she reads this article, and starts being a little "lazy". The "lazy" mom, well, I guess she isn't really "lazy" at all, just smart. Which kind of mom are you?

Amy
January 26th, 2004, 10:47 AM
I want to be a lazy mom!!! My mom was a bit of both....we all had assigned chores, but if they weren't done to her satisfaction (my mother could do white glove inspections for the military) she went ballistic and we had to redo them, or she would redo them for us, muttering "I should've just done it myself". I swore I would never do that to my kids, and therefore, I choose to be a lazy mom!

Thanks for posting that!!

Nadine
January 26th, 2004, 11:18 AM
:eek: I knew I am crazy- now I know why...:blush:

I definitely need to become more lazy. Guess what? My MOM is the "lazy" type, my MIL is the crazy type, and since I got used to doing things around the house because DH isn't doing them...
Not completely true. I make sure the kids put away their toys. They also really show they wanna help.
Thanks for refreshing this idea in my mind... about time i did something about it.:rolleyes:

AahRee
January 26th, 2004, 05:04 PM
I'm defintely more the lazy type! :lol:

Hilary
January 26th, 2004, 05:27 PM
:lol: I think I want to be a "lazy" mom!

JillMelissa
January 26th, 2004, 05:29 PM
Well, I'll definitely be a lazy type... although, what I really want to do is hire a housekeeper and be REALLY lazy! :lol:

AahRee
January 27th, 2004, 12:56 AM
Well, I'll definitely be a lazy type... although, what I really want to do is hire a housekeeper and be REALLY lazy! :lol:
AMEN! :lol:

Nichole
January 27th, 2004, 12:01 PM
Well, I'll definitely be a lazy type... although, what I really want to do is hire a housekeeper and be REALLY lazy! :lol:
Heck yeah! :aok:

My mom was the lazy type, so I'm pretty well-trained. When we were kids, we thought they just had us to do all of the chores. :lol:

Martian Lullaby
January 27th, 2004, 03:37 PM
I don't think that's being "lazy" at all -- it takes a lot of nagging to train somebody to do things right. :lol:

I think if DH's mom and grandmother had been less "crazy," he would have adjusted to grown-up life better. :rolleyes:

Leslie
January 27th, 2004, 03:59 PM
If only there were more lazy moms out there, we have more self-sufficient men to pick from! :lol:

Sherry
January 29th, 2004, 12:30 PM
lazy here!

LisaE
February 9th, 2004, 02:34 PM
I am definitely going to be a lazy mom too. Our rule is going to be "once you can reach the sink, you can do the dishes!" :lol:

Denise
February 28th, 2004, 10:48 PM
I think I am the crazy one but really really really want to be the lazy one! :)

Theresa
February 29th, 2004, 06:25 AM
I'm definitely lazy! :)

Faye
March 6th, 2004, 07:41 PM
I couldn't be the lazy mom because I just don't believe anything it says, sorry but I don't. Plus, when it comes to housekeeping, I'm too much of a perfectionist and have to have things my way in MY house :nod: :dunno: BUT I also love my kids and would never resent my family for taking me for granted. So there is a way to be a little bit of both of them and still be a great mom. Oh and I'm a soccer mom too. My son starts this week for his second season of soccer and he loves doing physical activity and is proud of his physical strengths. I love running around town doing that but I don't feel I'm crazy for doing it. I would think a lazy mom's child would just be at home watching t.v. and playing video games, I wonder why that wasn't mentioned. :)

bunybomb
March 9th, 2004, 12:01 PM
If only there were more lazy moms out there, we have more self-sufficient men to pick from! :lol:
I couldn't have said it better!

Marrazin
March 9th, 2004, 01:25 PM
So there is a way to be a little bit of both of them and still be a great mom.
I agree! I don't want to be extreme one way or the other. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a little bit of both, and I don't think having "crazy" tendencies automatically means your children can't learn responsibility. I'm a parent; my child needs me to do some things for her and I want to do some things for her. What's so horrible about packing your child's lunch every day?

I might be taking this a little too literally, but the other thing that I disagreed with about the "lazy" side is the idea of "training" your children. That wouldn't be my preferred term...I hope to teach my child. "Training" makes me think of circus animals. :lol:

bunkie68
March 15th, 2004, 03:19 PM
and since I got used to doing things around the house because DH isn't doing them...
Nadine, are your DH and mine twins that were separated at birth?! :lol: Right now I fall more into the "crazy" category, and it sucks. I'll have to work on becoming more "lazy"! I don't think I'll ever be completely one or the other, though, and that's OK.

bunkie68
March 15th, 2004, 03:20 PM
If only there were more lazy moms out there, we have more self-sufficient men to pick from! :lol:
AMEN!!!!! :nod: Maybe I shouldn't look at it as me trying to become more "lazy" - maybe I should look at it as training my son to be self-sufficient and to make some woman very happy one day.

Karly
March 15th, 2004, 11:17 PM
I'm way more lazy, that's for sure!! But, I really don't think teaching my kids responsibility is easy or lazy! It's hard work, but oh so important!!!