Ok here is the situation. I just went back to work three weeks ago. Macie is now going to day care three days a week and Matthew is with my inlaws on a full time basis.

The first two days of daycare were great, Macie ran off and played and it was difficult to get her to go home at the end of the day. The following week she was really clingy with DH when he was ready to leave. She wanted up and didnt want to stay at daycare. She hasn't quite made it to crying but she is upset to see her daddy go. The teacher says she is fine once DH leaves, just wanting the occasional pick up and cuddle.

I understand the novelty has worn off, and reality has kicked in. I just want her to be happy and I know DH doesn't like to leave with her upset. So my question is does this continue forever or does it stop sometime or another. BTW Macie has never been upset when we have left her in the past.

Thanks inadvance for your comments and feedback.

It'll stop and then she may go through it again in the future in spurts. That's what Matthew did. They are always fine when you're out of sight. I think they do it to make us feel guilty :lol:

Nocona's right - it comes and goes in spurts. The best thing to do is just leave as quickly as possible. If you stay to try to calm them down, then they just learn that if they do it longer, you'll stay longer. Just go and they're fine 30 seconds after you leave.

Dennis

We're going through this again right now. Rebekah was clingy for a few weeks when we first started Daycare in March. Then she was fine all summer. Then just recently, in the past 3 weeks, she's started crying when I leave her and she cries several times throughout the day, too. She's even been crying for me at my mom's house, which she never did before. I don't know what's going on. I hope it's just a phase.

I'm going through this right now, too. Every once in a while Julian will have a good drop-off day, but almost every day he superglues himself to my leg as soon as we walk in the door of daycare (no matter how excited about seeing his buddies and eating toast or cereal and playing in the ballpit he might have been 30 seconds before in the car), and saying, "mommy, mommy" in this pitiful little voice. He does his best to keep his body between me and the door, hoping that will keep me from leaving, and when I do leave, he howls - "mooooommeeeeeee!" :blue: I don't delay leaving - I get out the door as soon as I can get past him without physically pushing him away from me (I think that would make it even worse still). I know he's fine when I leave - sometimes I've had to run to his room to drop stuff off, and his teacher has seen me walking out and given me the high sign to let me know he's all right. Sometimes he'll even see me leaving through the window and wave good-bye. It's just that actual drop-off that's brutal. And knowing he's doing it to yank at my heartstrings doesn't make it any easier - he's been in daycare since he was 7 months old, he's now almost 28 months old, and there are still days I get in the car and cry. I wish I knew when this phase would end - it feels like it's been going on forever, and it's killing me. And he hasn't always done this - in the older infants room and the toddler room, he was just fine most of the time. Consistent, daily separation anxiety has been a fairly recent phenomenon (started up in the last three or four months in earnest, never seems to let up for more than a day or two at a time :blue: ).