Wish me luck!

[redhairedgirl]

I'm putting this here, because well, tomorrow I will be talking with my gyn about BC and permanent BC. I am a little nervous.... back in 2002, this was the Doctor who performed my laparoscopy to help me get pregnant. Now, I'm going to see him tomorrow to help me never get pregnant again. :lol: I honestly do not have any desires to have more children. I congratulate others with their subsequent pregnancies and such, but it's just not for me, and I'm okay with that. I am happy where I am now and it has been a long road for me to get here physically and mentally.
Yes, there is a part of me that is sad that I may never have another child... but I think about the other children in the world who need love and will gladly give as much as I can to them.

I guess I'm a little nervous because I'm relatively young (28) and I know how Doctors and insurance companies are about people who want to give up their fertility at this age. I just do not think I am "equipped" to deal with another pregnancy.... ever. :lol: I'm just hoping that I can pursuade "the powers that be" of my decision.


Mandy

[Brooke]

Good luck, Mandy!
My cousin's wife, age 23, had her tubes tied during the birth of her 2nd child (c-section). She had to put up a little bit of a fight but once her dr agreed, the insurance company didn't argue.

[TMFKA-TWTEZNAN]

Good Luck Mandy !


I am a mom to a onlie. My daughter is almost 14 yrs old. I had my tubes tied when I was 23 yrs old. I also just had a hysterectomy . I don't regret now having my tubes tied but I was also nervous and wondered if I was doing the right thing back then . I am 35 yrs old and know it was the best thing I ever did. My daughter is not spoiled and bratty. She loves everyone and loves other kids and babies. I have asked her if she misses not having a brother or sister and she replies No each and every time. Now her dad is remarried and so am I . He may have other children one day .

You know in your heart what is right. Hugs ...

[Bobbie]

Mandy, how did it go? :scan:

[redhairedgirl]

Hey Ladies! I had to cancel because my son was sooooo sick. I talked with my Mom about it (she also sees the same gyn) and said she doesn't think he's going to let me do a tubal lit. I said as long as he lets me do an IUD, I am okay. I just don't want to go on hormonal BC.
AF was all screwy last month and I admit, it scared the crap out of me. It definitely made me realize that I am not ready for any surprises. :lol:

Thanks for your concern!
Mandy

[AahRee]

Mandy, I'm thinking they'll let you do a tubal if that's what you want - unless there is some other medical reason not to let you. If it's just because they think you might change your mind, ultimately that's your choice, not theirs.

We're going in for DH's snip-snip on Thursday, so we're in that boat, too. The doctor said, repeatedly, that he wanted to make sure we understood it was permanent and that he wanted us to be sure we wouldn't change our minds later. We did and we are. We're ready to not have to worry about it any more, and in a way, I'm really ready to not have more children as an option to consider. It's such a tough thing to be 100% certain about, and since we're 99% certain, it's easier to close the door than it is to leave it open and constantly think "What if...", kwim?

[redhairedgirl]

Anne, that's what I was thinking. Because I herniated a disc in my lumbar spine when I pushed Aiden into the world, I was told that basically, any future pregnancies may irritate it. Since I narrowly escaped having surgery (by 4 days :eek: ) I'd prefer to count my blessings and go completely permanent. I am at 99.5% certainty that I do not want any more pregnancies. There are many many children in this world that are orphaned and need a good home that I would love to go that route.

Mandy

[Bobbie]

Thank you Mandy and Anne for sharing your thought processes on this. I've been leaving the door open for that 1% chance of "what if?" and honestly, it's an exhausting thing to have "out there." In our case, DH is very open to the idea of another baby (says he would be "happy either way"), which makes things a little more complicated, at least in my mind. Also, I don't have any health issues influencing my choice.

Congrats to everyone who has come to a final decision on this!